I started dating a girl last February. She is great but had only kissed one guy before me and is quite green to the ways of the world. She was 18 at the time and i was 21. We started out pretty quickly and became bf/gf within three weeks. We had a good relationship until May when we both had to leave college and go back home, but I stayed at school during the summer and she only lived 90 minutes away so although we were a bit timid we decided to try it. I did not have a car at the time and her parents were anal about letting her come but eventually they did and I was even able to go see her via train. We saw each other about every two weeks for three months and my feelings grew for her because I did not think it would work and it ended up working out terrifically. At this point i realize i love her, but do not tell her because of past relationships and I was scared. So it comes time to come back to school in august and the 1st few days back at college are great, but then we start worrying about me leaving in December, we begin talking about it a lot and there is some miscommunication where she thought we were sort of broke up and I did not think we did. That night she ends up kissing another guy, but I am frustrated about her not talking to me all night so the next morning,without knowing she kissed another guy, I break up with her and it was hard...we both cried. She feels guilty about kissing another guy and tells me later that day which in turn solidifies our break up. I did tell her it was ok though and that I wasn't going to be angry because she thought we were broke up and I had cheated on a girl before and I just wanted her to forgive me so I forgave her. The next week we don't really talk as she is busy with school and other things in her life, but the next weekend we talk. I bring her to my apartment and tell her I want her back and we need not worry about December until it comes because maybe by then we will have stronger feelings for each other. She said she didn't want to get back with me because of school,other things, pressures from her friends, and she said there wouldn't be time for a healthy relationship. Of course I got emotional and put my arms around her and started kissing her neck etc and she didn't know what to do and started crying. We held each other for a bit and I was trying to talk her into getting back together but she wasn't having any of it so I finally just drove her back to her place, both of us in tears. This was about 4 weeks ago, and after that she said she didn't want to talk because it was too hard to talk to me and not miss me yet she insisted we would not get back together.

I was being sent mixed signals so i try to continue to get her back because I am not sure why she wouldn't take me back. Maybe she had lost feelings before I broke up with her but i doubt unless she was being fake but that is not like her. The past couple of weeks I have talked to her and she keeps insisting on not getting back together and that she has lost feelings for me and i don't understand why. She did end up doing stuff with another guy a couple times. In the mean time I went to jail for drunk driving for a couple days and when i got out I wanted to talk to her because I was super stressed and i tried to play it off because thats how i was coping with it. This really bothered her and she texted me saying it did and asked odd questions like "How are you going to prevent this from happening again? She was very concerned about it but then just stopped talking to me about it the next morning.

For some reason I still feel like there is going to be something more between us because the reasons she gave for not wanting to get back together were not brought up before we broke up. The day after she "cheated on me" she felt horrible and told her friends she was very upset and she cried to me about it and the reason i think she does want to get back together is because she feels guilty about cheating and feels like she doesn't deserve me. I also believe she has allowed the things like school, pressures from friends, bad timing(because of me leaving in December), me going to jail, her kissing another guy, etc to suppress her feelings for me. I feel like she just dropped me instead of working through her emotions, but maybe she didn't know how to. Also whenever i try to ask her questions in person 80% of her answers are I don't know which adds to my confusion. she only says that she has lost feelings and that school, timing etc are the reasons why we aren't meant to be.

She has had a lot of stress on her as she has switched majors, she is a college athlete, and she has never had to deal with guys like this.

We were supposed to talk this weekend. I had finally come up with the above idea and i was going to tell her but she got sick and had to go home so I texted her and we said a couple things and then i put emotion into a couple texts and said " If there is anything I can do let me know" and then sent another saying How ya feeling? and stupidly I sent another just a few hours ago saying I hope ya feel better, and I got no response to either of those so I am not sure what the deal is. Her friends, who r also some of my friends, seem to think i am annoying her but im only saying those things because I care about her

I did forget to mention that about a week ago i did tell her i loved her and I said." I should have told you when I felt it but I was scared", and she didn't really have a response but told one of our mutual friends who told her to no be scared of it and that I had to get it out there so hopefully that was good

Do you think my theory is correct or am i over thinking it possibly? Do i still have a shot in the future maybe? What should i say to her when we talk again? Am i possible in denial that it is over? I dont think so but maybe.

If you need more details let me know I would be glad to provide them as I am quite confused.