I'm probably the only chick I know who actually knows what the friendzone feels like.
My whole life I've been one of the guys - I grew up with all brothers, got tormented by my girl classmates in grade school which led to me having pretty much no interest in being around girls all through highschool and my early 20s. I now have a few girl friends, but they are mostly similar to me in the ways mentioned above.
So, in general.. still to this day, all my friends are guys. I talk like a guy, act like a guy and, to be honest, feel more like a guy than a girl... I have much more in common with dudes.
I'm a pretty good looking girl - I get asked out often by guys who don't know me. But guys who do know me always seem to consider me one of the guys and can't see me as something else. I love being one of the guys and I wouldn't have it any other way. The only problem is that, sometimes, I actually like one of my guy friends.... and find myself in the friendzone.
I've liked my best friend since the day I met him - in fact, since the moment I saw him across the room on the snowboarding trip we met on. I ended up boning a different dude on that trip and the next night set now-best-friend up with my other chick friend. They dated for a while and the two of us became really good friends while they were dating. She went off the deep end and f*d it all up and, unfortunately, placed me in a position to choose one over the other... I chose to stay friends with him - not because I liked him, I'd gotten over it by that point - but because he was way freaking cooler.
Since then we have become best friends. We do everything together. Just as my feelings for him were beginning to resurface, my (now ex-)roommate, who I might mention is a crazy b with daddy issues, started flirting with him like crazy after I told her how I felt about it.. and, her being a good looking girl, he started to like her. .They started dating. He has now seen her for what she is and broke up with her.
While they were dating, things got weird between us, but since he began thinking about breaking up with her he has started to be more normal around me again. Now they are broken up and everything is completely normal between us but I am again finding those feelings coming back. Every time we are together - and it's always been this way - we seem perfect together and he seems so natural with me... seems like he likes me. But I was wrong before about thinking he likes me.
Do I talk to him about it? Or do I just assume we're only friends and that's all we're ever going to be? I love him, but I'm not willing to risk our friendship, which is one of the best things in my life, because I want something more.