Hello,
I'm new to this forum and I just registered because I want an outsiders opinion on what I just discovered. I met my current boyfriend online in June last year. I was about to move to his city within a couple of months, so we were just talking online until we met in August last year. From the start we quickly grew attached to each other and we spent hours talking every day on Skype. When we met, it instantly got "serious". We've lived together since march this year, and we recently signed a contract to rent a flat together for six months.
Lately I've been noticing that he wants to hide his Facebook and phone from me, and always making sure he's logged out etc when I'm around. I thought that was weird as he's never been like that before. So I did something bad yesterday, that I know you're not meant to do, but I had this feeling and I had to find out. So I looked at his private Facebook messages.
I can't remember exactly what they said, because I didn't read everything, but basically he's talking to two girls online. One who he's been on a date with (he told me once, but according to the message it was twice). He's telling her how he likes everything about her, he's being very flirty etc. he also sent pics to her (and the other girl) of himself, showing way too much. And asked for pics in return. To the other girl, he said things like "I wish my gf had a body like yours" etc. he described his ideal girl as petite and slim etc, which is like the opposite of what I am. I'm not fat, but I'm curvy in the right places, and quite tall (5'6). It was very hurtful to read how he finds them very attractive, when he rarely tell me I'm beautiful. He said he has no intention to cheat on me physically, but he wants to flirt an meet up etc. To me, that's just as bad, and I'm really hurt. He's never had a girlfriend before, and only slept with one girl before me. Maybe the reason he went with me was because he didn't think he would get anything else? As I'm apparently not his type. Maybe it's because he's insecure he needs to talk to other girls and show them pictures. Or maybe he's just an asshole. Everything else is fine, we have a lot of fun together and I genuinely think he likes me and would be sad if we broke up. Buy why is he talking to others, asking for nude pics and sending nude pictures?
I'm really hurt and don't know what to do. I can't move out, because we've paid 6 months rent already. I don't know if I can trust him if I stay, especially when I know he's not even that attracted to me. What's the point being in a relationship where you feel unattractive? I haven't talked to him yet, I just know he's meeting one of the girls today.
What should I do?