Real Dilemma. Please help

[spiderjoko]

Hi,

I have known this girl at work for about 2 years and half and over the past 6 months, we got to know each other really well. we pretty much talk about anything ranging from simple day to day talk to personal life in regards to girls iam seeing or guys she is seeing etc. 3 months ago, I have started to develop this strange feeling towards her. I kept thinking about her and started to realize that while iam out there searching for the right woman, me and her will actually work well together. I saw a future and It was a scary feeling but a wonderful one as well.

I can't describe how nice she has been to me. She was always there for me, texting me just before a job interview wishing me luck and just being kind. I didn't tell her anything because she was my work colleague and didn't want to make things awkward but now I quit my job in UK and I have been offered a job abroad to work in holland. Its only an hour away and I will be coming to london probably every now and then so its not gonna be a forever thing...hopefully.

I am taking her for lunch to this special restaurant this Tuesday as a goodbye and here is the real dilemma. 4 weeks ago, she started seeing this guy and it is going well with him. I have been feeling really sad recently and getting emotional that iam leaving london and won't be able to see her or my family etc and I really think its a good idea to just let all the feeling out when I see her but tell her that iam not expecting anything from you because I understand you are involved with someone.

I think she realized that I like her two weeks ago on my leaving drinks because she told one of my colleague that. They asked her how she feels about it and she told them " if there is anyone at work that I would go out with, it would be him but iam with someone now".

I would happily leave the country without saying anything if it was just a fling but I know this is a special feeling and a beginning of true love. I have no idea how she feels, she has giving me mixed signals all the times. Sometimes describing guys who are similar to me and sometimes just being completely off.

I really appreciate your help guys and sorry for the long message.

[searock]

I think you should let her know how you feel. After all, she's only just started seeing this other guy, and it seems to me like she might actually feel the same way about you. Let her know, then it's up to her to decide what to do.

[ttylox]

I agree - definitely tell her how you feel! Worst-case scenario she says she just wants to stay friends and you will have some distance between you to give you time to get over the blow.