Should I just forget the whole thing even happened?

[truthseeker]

For about 2 years, I have had this guy keep showing up in my life. It was the same story the first two times.... he'd come around, we'd talk for a while, he'd do something that upset me or made me think he was just a douche so I would blow him off and he would go away. But the 3rd time... ugh. I got a random message from him and I started to ignore him then asked him what he wanted. He said he was deployed and wanted to talk to me while he was gone. I thought that was kind of sweet, so what the hell? I figured I would talk to to him a few times here and there and once again get tired of it and move on. But I didn't. After talking every single day for 5 weeks from 3-10 hours everyday, I kinda liked the guy. He was really sweet. He knew my ex had put me through hell and he told me in so many words that he wanted to "fix" me. He said he wanted me to be confident again. He said he wanted me to see myself the way he saw me. Wow-- what girl wouldn't eat that up? After knowing him for 2 years and a month of this daily back and forth with him always saying all the right things, I decided to send him a Facebook friend request. He ignored it. Weird. I also realized he gave me some 2nd string, non-primary email address. (I know that's what it is because when he gave it to me for me to send him a file, he thought about it a minute and then said "This one should still work". I didn't think much of it at the time, but lately, that's stood out to me. Why not give me your main email address that anyone else would have?) Anyway, over those 5 weeks, the last week or so he became kind of distant. We still spoke, but it changed. And then without warning, he just disappeared. Now while I don't completely understand how a deployment works, I do understand that it's just common courtesy to tell someone you've spoken to daily that you might not be around or able to talk for a while but that you'll find them when you get the chance to talk again. So after him vanishing for a few days (being offline), he pops back on, says hello.... I reply about 15 min later as I didn't his message right away and I get no response. I dunno. It makes me feel like maybe he was toying with me? Maybe he meant to send the message to someone else? Maybe he's trying to keep me hanging on by a thread? It's been a week now and still sign of him. I really liked this guy and he acted like he really liked me. But if he had, wouldn't he have made some effort not to make it look like he was blowing me off? And why ignore a FB request and give me the email you would give out when you know you're just gonna get spam? Why say all those things... if he wanted me to see myself the way he saw me... wow... if this is how sees me--- harsh. Any input would be greatly appreciated.

[smackie9]

Yup he is ****in with ya once again....how many times does it take for you?

[truthseeker]

Again? He never effed with me before. I never gave him the chance to in the past. Apparently you didn't read the original question or you misunderstood.

[smackie9]

You said he comes into your life, upsets you and goes away....comes back again, talks with you, then acts like a douche, you blow him off, he goes away.......now he sucks you in again with sweet talk, then ditches you leaving you upset again wondering wtf?

I would consider those other times as f-ing with you.

[smackie9]

This is the third time he has sucked you in....obviously he has you fooled each time. This guy is a dweeb....he gets off on manipulating you. He gets an ego boost when he gets you to start liking him, and then acts like a jerk, either by being rude, or ignoring you. block him and find something else to do.

[thirdofsix]

although i agree with smackie a little bit, I would first ask him straight up what's going on. don't try to read too much into what his actions might mean when you can just ask him what they actually mean. if he gives you answers that don't make sense or you know for a fact he's lying, then refer to the previous posts.

please don't automatically assume that he's blowing you off. it might be something else completely