Ok so this is pretty long, I am a bit puzzled. I'm 19 male and I say I'm good looking 8/10. I am also a virgin but I'll get into that later. So here's the deal. I've had relationships and flings before but those were in high school, yay. Now I'm attending a community college and I assumed that getting into a relationship would be well easier. It seems I freeze up when it comes time to talk to a girl you may be interested to. Outside of this realm I am a very confidant person when it comes to 90% of life. I have dealt with rejection in the past....alot. I got passed over for someone who was "better looking" or "more popular" which I wasn't unpopular so I don't know. I'll be the first to say I am different with alot of my thinking but nothing crazy at all. On top of that the relationships I've had all ended because the other side was "too busy" the saddest thing about that line was they were telling the truth. They were A students with scholarships on the line and I was a "distraction" even though none of them really were anything but texting and holding hands between classes. So where did it all fail? I analyze things alot because this whole thing of life is one giant puzzle to me. I thought guys were supposed to hold doors and pay for dates. But I read that makes the guy seem weak. But then girls complain that their boyfriend is an *** hole. So then I thought you were supposed to be accomodating. You know if she texts you at 2am upset you talk to her or she needs something you are there for her. Well apparantly this annoys girls. Ok so creativity. This is my strongest attribute. I was known around my class for it. Flowers for good luck or a very fun way to ask someone to a dance? or a very sly "in" to get a date on a friday. Well strike three because this is apparantly aggressive and can scare the girl off. Haha It's so tricky. I dont get it because I'm not awkward around people. I can have converstions with people I meet instantly. Where is the disconnect? Is there an easy way to do this that I am missing? Why am I so gun shy when it comes time to ask a girl out? I don't just want sex I want a real world relationship and know how to maintain one but not how to get one I guess. And not to seem shallow but you see some real ugly and F'd up couples and think to yourself...."They have one but I don't...why?" Also is being a virgin at 19 abnormal? I feel like it is? I've been close but haven't closed. I'm not a shut in either I do go out with friends and am an athlete. Any help is greatly appreciated and thanks in advance!