Hi girls.
So my GF told me yesterday that she wants to take an indefinite break to re-assess our relationship. The reason being because I have become a bit over-affectionate and obsessive, and consequently I am having issues with insecurities and self-confidence. Whilst initially shocked and upset by the break up, I do agree with her reasoning, and I see it as a good opportunity to work on my issues (for example I am starting a mindfulness mediation course in a few days, and I am going to work hard on loving myself and developing a better understanding of the best way to approach relationships)
When my last GF broke up with me, I dealt with it really bad - I was texting/calling her, begging her to come back and telling her how sad i was etc. she naturally felt terrible about the break up, so insisted on continuing to visit me to try help me through the break up. Eventually this only complicated matters, and drew out the pain. Anyways, that break up was actually a blessing in disguise, because I wasnt actually happy in that relationship. I was just being delusional when she broke up with me.
However,the most recent GF, who just broke up with me yesterday, is someone who I actually saw a future with (and she, too, had mentioned the same about me, before thing started to get complicated as of recent).
And I guess my question is this: what is the best way to approach this in order to increase my chances of getting her back, if there is still potential there (As I mentioned, the point of this break up is to "re-assess")? And like I said, I am working on my personal issues. But what i mean is, should I break off all communication with her whilst we are having this break? And should I show her that I can do fine without her (which, i believe, with the right mindset, I honestly can do)?
I guess I would like some female opinions on the matter: Past break-ups - what have been the determining factors of whether or not you can rekindle the fire with him?
Thanks in advance