Am I selfish for choosing my boyfriend instead of my family?

[pcmaster]

Ofcourse they want her to be happy. But its not how parents mind works. Their kids deserve the best future and partner on the planet. But guy not even black, not even Somalian, not even from Canada. Shes the youngest child so that means their have the biggest hopes on her since she was in Canada since only 1 year of age unlike ther parents or brother. That means she recieved the best Canada have to offer - things that parents couldnt even dream of in Somalia.

And now she puts her career on ? mark because of some random white american who is here one moment but next moment might disapear. And now her head is full with BS about USA and she wants leave family after everything they have done for her. In their place I would just kill the white dick.

Obiouvsly its the first serious BF and the chance they will stay together for long is tiny since they have no exierience in relationship just a bodies full with hormones and desire. Whats worst that can happen? Pregrant in another country? Struggling to find a job and end up in macdonalds? Or become sucesfull and never come back home? Or worse - divorse? Maybe even end up like Romeo and Juliet.

Stay tuned.

[toknow]

No, it's not of course. Sometimes parents are selfish and want what's best for them, not their child whether they realize it or not. And this is a good example of that.

[pcmaster]

All people are like that. But whats best for kids is best for parents. Mum said BF should come over but shes not ok if dauther goes instead. Because how on earth she can protect her girl in other country?

[Ont]

LOL, run and dont look back !

Its hard to understand why you dont trust your dad - unlike mum and bro hes supporting your position. Whats there for him to stand behind someone who go against the grain with community. I think hes in there for you because you are his little girl.

Really dont see how this can benefit his image. I would choose my kid over community aswell.

Sometimes it's difficult to take what he says at face value. Not to mention he had arranged for me to meet with at least five boys in the hopes that I would marry one within a year. I don't know if my distrust is completely justified. He hasn't done anything to me, but the rest of my family doesn't like or trust him.

[Ont]

Ofcourse they want her to be happy. But its not how parents mind works. Their kids deserve the best future and partner on the planet. But guy not even black, not even Somalian, not even from Canada. Shes the youngest child so that means their have the biggest hopes on her since she was in Canada since only 1 year of age unlike ther parents or brother. That means she recieved the best Canada have to offer - things that parents couldnt even dream of in Somalia.

And now she puts her career on ? mark because of some random white american who is here one moment but next moment might disapear. And now her head is full with BS about USA and she wants leave family after everything they have done for her. In their place I would just kill the white dick.

Obiouvsly its the first serious BF and the chance they will stay together for long is tiny since they have no exierience in relationship just a bodies full with hormones and desire. Whats worst that can happen? Pregrant in another country? Struggling to find a job and end up in macdonalds? Or become sucesfull and never come back home? Or worse - divorse? Maybe even end up like Romeo and Juliet.

Stay tuned.

My career isn't in jeopardy because of my boyfriend. I'm not going to suddenly drop my goals. It's just that new ones have been added. I don't think they're in conflict with one another. Like I said, me being able to relocate is going to take a lot of time. Years, really.

Yes, my mother has done a lot for me. I'm not abandoning her. I'd love for us to be one big extended family. My choice of partner shouldn't change that. If it's about her comfort, well, she could learn to have that by getting to know him.

[pcmaster]

Yeah your dad have his own way of thinking.( I wish my dad would bring me girls when I was younger.) Only why get married? Maybe he wants granchildren. Must be lonely to live alone in the middle of your life cycle.

In this case offer to stay with him makes perfect sense. And if this really all there is to know that theres shouldnt be reason not to trust own father.

[bearz]

My family -- specifically my mother and my older brother -- hate him.

Your family needs to grow up. I have no respect for racist people with these kinds of reglious beliefs. That's all I will say about this.

EDIT: Apparently not being fond of people who are racist and whose religious beliefs (at times hostile) don't fit into today's civilized world makes me a racist. I'm by far one of the most tolerant people when it comes to other ethnic backgrounds.