describe your perfect partner and yourself

[FlaCooln]

aw that is nice. I really hope it goes well How did the date go with your mothers friends daughter? Is this the same girl?

I compleltey forgot to let you know about that (you've got a great memory). AWAKWARD to say the least. I met her with her friends (came with a single buddy of mine) at a club. We all had a few drinks and got a bit tipsy and I danced with her for a little awhile, but never got over that little sister feeling. I told her she is beautiful, but we have had too much history as friends and she understood. She's a cool girl tho and took it in stride and said anytime I need a winggirl give her a call.

As for the new woman its going well. We kissed a lot and really had to stop ourselves from taking each other home...lol. Have not felt chemistry like this in a LONG time. From when we started our date, we both could tell there was an instant attraction. And as the date went on and we got to know each other the attraction kept growing.

[searock]

I noticed that girls write little good about themself but lots about how their perfect partners should be.

Hardly a surprise, is it? Considering that most people don't like to talk too well about themselves in order to not seem like they are boasting, AND that this thread is about describing our PERFECT guy.

I haven't seen any unrealistic descriptions in this thread, in any case.

[TwillightBrony]

*sigh* nothing against your conversation but it seems every thread here sooner or later goes into some sort of offtopic .

to discuss male attraction and compare to female is way too difficult for a couple of posts. All I can tell now is that it works quite different with both sexes. For example nice eyecontact or intersting bodylanguage can quite easily turn woman on while they pay little interest to your chest shape if you dont rub it into their face. Opposite: man pay less attention to womans flirting ability - if she is not exceptionaly good or bad at it! - and they are far more interested in her butts or breast shape (or size).

I think it would be good idea to start same thread in Ask a male section to see that differences. You might be pretty suprised with results. I recommend you to first observe resposes and discuss later. There will be much to think of but without proper research results it would be useless.

[searock]

Yes, guys tend to pay more attention to physical appearance, while girls are more interested in body language, eye contact and so on. That's why most of the girls who replied on this thread have not described in detail the appearance of their ideal partner. I bet most guys, when asked the same question ("describe your ideal partner"), would put a lot more emphasis on the physical appearance part.

[michelle23]

The only reason girls dont put much emphasis on that is coz we get accussed of being shallow by some insecure loser if we do.

Last time i went into detail-thats the response i got when i said i hate ugly teeth, slobs, overweight or too hairy..

Sorry but i find that repulsive. The truth hurts some people.

I think attraction is important to both men and women but mature people no its not the only important thing and even the bst looking person with a shit personality is unnattractive-thats y it is important to put detail into the person underneath the beauty.

[searock]

The only reason girls dont put much emphasis on that is coz we get accussed of being shallow by some insecure loser if we do.

Last time i went into detail-thats the response i got when i said i hate ugly teeth, slobs, overweight or too hairy..

I was actually referring to positive traits rather than negative... you said yourself that you don't have a specific preference for eye and hair color, height and so on. As long as he isn't overweight, too hairy or with bad dental hygiene, he should be fine, right? I mean, even if he isn't an adonis, as long as he has a great personality and sense of humor, is confident and sweet and makes you happy, then it doesn't really matter, right? I just think guys would be more specific in describing the physical traits they desire for their ideal partner.

[michelle23]

No i am fussy-but realistic. I dont expect perfection even though my bf is perfect lol. Hes 5"11, strong, very muscular, has dark hair, blue eyes, perfect features. I mean diamond face, not one flaw. Really strong jaw, dimples, perfect teeth, amazing smile. He is gorgeous

But he also has the perfect personality i mentioned. Like i said i want the whole package and i have it.

I dont think anyone could beat him lol. Hes set my standards so high. I love him to pieces.

Attraction and looks are important but i wouldnt be with him if his personality was awful.

[michelle23]

And the guys did already describe their perfect partner in another thread. Most of them put a lot of emphasis on personality as well as looks.

[pcmaster]

Oh wrong threat lol

[michelle23]

Flacooln thats really great. Im happy for you how did you meet her?

[searock]

And the guys did already describe their perfect partner in another thread. Most of them put a lot of emphasis on personality as well as looks.

Yes, but I think that in average, they put more emphasis on looks than girls do (it doesn't mean they put less emphasis on personality).

Fwiw, I also think that my bf is the hottest guy alive, but when I first met him I thought he was pretty average looking. I grew more and more attracted to him (on a physical level) the more I got to know him and connect with him on an intellectual and emotional level. I think guys are a bit different in this regard - they tend to be more simply visual than us girls.

[michelle23]

I think thats just a stereotype. Ive talked with a lot of guys who have told me they always become friendly with a girl first and develop an emotional connection before thinking wow i want her..

Everyone is different. A lot of people dont just take one glance and then make a move coz there looking for more than that.

When i first met my bf i thought he was gorgeous but still didnt have much interest till after the second date when i got to no him better

[searock]

Everyone is different. A lot of people dont just take one glance and then make a move coz there looking for more than that.

Yes, but this doesn't mean that guys won't look at a girl they find attractive and not think "wow, I wish I could bang her" on at least some level. They don't actually *want* to bang her if they're in a happy loving relationship, but their body certainly does. And this happens more rarely to women... it's rare for a woman to simply *look* at a guy (without seeing him interacting with anyone) and decide that she would like to sleep with him. We, most of the times, need to interact with a guy (or at least to see him interacting with someone else) in order to decide whether he's sexy or not. At least, that's how it works for me and for most of my girl friends. For a guy, physical attraction is more immediate, IMO. This is why an average guy will put more detail than an average girl in describing the physical appearance of their ideal partner.

Just to be clear, this^^^ doesn't mean that guys are all pigs and don't care about personality and emotional connection.

[VerticalMoon]

This is me: 35, introverted loner, have a Master's degree, research analyst, average income, about average looking (Middle Eastern type face, thin body). It's been a while since I was in the market, but the main thing that always attracted guys to me was my intelligence. My mom tried to tell me that guys only liked girls for their bodies, but most of the time when a guy showed a really strong interest in me it was because we'd had a good philosophical discussion or he saw something I'd written that he really like. My husband was attracted to my looks as well, but my intelligence was probably what sold it to him.

The most important attributes for me in a guy would be intelligence, warm-hearted, and considerate. For age, I prefer somebody who's close to my own age, but I'm at a point in my life now where it wouldn't really matter if he was ten years older or younger than me. Ideal looks would be a hottie. Ideal job would be somebody with something similar to mine. That way he wouldn't be stressed at home from work, but he'd be earning enough income that I wouldn't have to worry about having an income if I lost my job. The looks and job thing aren't essential though. My husband is average looking and earns a lot less than me, but I'm not with him for his looks and money. He is the traits I described at the beginning and that's a lot more important to me. Having some friends that I could hang out with from time to time would be a bonus as well since I'm shy and don't make my own friends that easily. One of the things that attracted to me to my husband was that he was more social than me.

[basilandthyme]

I noticed that girls write little good about themself but lots about how their perfect partners should be.

I've never had to think about it. I'm sure if I actually placed an ad in the personals, it would be a much better description.