So, the other night, my girlfriend and I got into an argument.
We were both bored on a saturday night watching television. I really wanted us to go out to a party that night with our friend who was in town, but she started whining about it saying "I thought we were gonna stay in tonight, you can go though".. I was kind of annoyed by her so I said "okay, I'm gonna go then".. She then started getting mad, I told her I was going to leave cause she was getting mad now, then she shoved me. I just left.
5 minutes later she's telling me she's going to a rave with this guy (this guy has a bad rep in our friends group for trying to get anyones' girlfriend to sleep with him).. I got pissed and told her she couldn't go cause we both know that guy's a sleezebag (I don't mind her hanging out with male friends, but this guy has all ready tried to step in the middle of our relationship in the past)... Then she went on to call me a schizophrenic blah blah blah insecure..
Later on that night He tried to have sex with her. He asked her, he gave her MDMA too and they both went to a party. I was so furious at this point. I called him up and told him to stay out of my life for now on and to stay out of hers too..
Luckily my girlfriend told me about this, but now she's all pissed that I don't want her hanging out with him anymore. How can she not see that this kid's a piece of crap and not a friend? Friends don't attempt to ruin relationships. She's telling me I'm overly paranoid and probably schizophrenic. I know I'm not because I've been in relationships in the past where I was totally content and happy.
I tried to break up with her, but she kept crying and clinging to me. But she wanted to continue hanging with this guy. It's not that I don't trust her, it's just that her judgement is so skewed and I seriously think that this guy is going to take advantage of her one of these days. If a girl ever tried to ruin our relationship I would immediately cut all contact with them and avoid them like the plague.. Purely out of respect so that my partner doesn't become paranoid.
After this whole ordeal I DO feel overly paranoid and feel like my girlfriend is walking all over me. I really do trust her in saying she hasn't cheated because we still have great sex and she's still lovey dove, but I honestly think I am going to kick this guy's ass if he tries to contact my girlfriend one more time and would rather not deal with jail time and paying for his surgery.
I don't think I'm being overly paranoid at all. This guy has made this mistake multiple times in the past (with a past girlfriend) and I have tried to restore trust in him. Now I just can't.