Unbiased Honest Advice Needed

[JustaName]

Oh my! Here you are all upset. But YOU didn't explain the entire story when you posted, did you? I've been all over Eastern and Western Europe. I get it. But there are still ex pat groups that would probably embrace your wife...keeping someone from acculturating and assisting them in acculturating are two different things, by the way. How could you help her in this?

My Thais pals don't deserve your insults! They are supurlative human beings caught between two cultures. Just like your wife is.....with a husband from a different culture who makes excuses for his wife's lying. I see you anger easily and are unable to process on a level higher than the personal one.

If one has difficulty reading English, and is married to an English speaking person, gee, I guess that person could get free English lessons - as could your child!

But, whatever, JustaName. You find my post unhelplful? Just what were you looking for? You got all kinds of feedback you didn't like. Maybe you could benefit from considering it. Ann

Oh we are very "Pally Pally" with smackie9, Do you two always do a double act?

Yes I'm annoyed at your acidic platitudes, not just upset.

I did not insult your pals, how could I, I don't know them. Everyone is different as is every situation. How exactly would you suggest I "assist" her when she has never requested, asked, shown any interest at all in getting involved here. Oh sorry, you mean I should force her to integrate.

Her spoken English has become almost perfect but reading is more difficult for her I believe in part to her lack of formal education when younger. She has never asked my help or accepted it when offered to study English in any more depth but maybe I misunderstand, did you mean, GEE, again that I should force her to learn?

I was looking for help to come to terms with a personal problem, I got something out of the others posts but not from your spiteful, bitter remarks.

I've made my mind up and won't be revisiting this forum again. Not because of what you've spat out but because you didn't say anything worth remembering.
Have fun P*****g someone else off who's only looking for help.

[michelle23]

OP thailand has a different culture. i understand a little about it and i know that many children are brought up as assets, sold, forced into child labour, child prostition etc etc and many young women do work as prostitutes as im sure you already know.
i know it happens everywhere but its prob 100x worse there.

anyway my point is, if your wife was brought up with this mentality (do whatever it takes for money), has all these friends, german pimp etc-id be seriously worried if i were you.

i dont know what advice to give you but i think marriage counselling, setting relationship boundaries, ensuring she is aware that you will divorce her if she crosses a line etc is a good idea.

if there is a language barrier between you-then i think you should work on that too

[smackie9]

Sit it out and let her make money with her Thai ways. Once she reaches her goal to see her daughter, then everything should go back to normal.....you hope.