Is he interested? Or just friendly?

[pascale]

I'm not great at figuring out when guys are just being friendly or are interested.

I met a guy at a swing dance club I go to in town. I met him through another guy friend I know. I noticed immediately that he was looking at my dress and talked to me for about half hour before asking me to dance.

After we danced to one song, my necklace got messed up; he patted me on the back after the song was over, and when he noticed my necklace, he fixed my necklace and put it back into place. I saw him again a few days later at another dance event, and we ended up talking for another half hour or so before dancing. He makes constant eye contact, and honestly I get nervous. I tried looking away for about a few seconds and I noticed he was still looking at me. We talk online on facebook some days, but I usually start the conversation. My friends think he likes me, but I am not sure. Why hasn't he asked me out to do anything yet?

I've only seen him in person twice. He did invite me to a swing dance event he puts on at his church, but that's a group event.

[Ann S]

He invited you!!!! And it's a group event? So! You have too many expectations about what it, "should," look like, instead of being able to sit back and just see what happens. And STOP contacting him....let him do a little pursuing. Ann

[michelle23]

i agree with ann. just relax and go with the flow. see what happens in the next few weeks. if its not obvious in a month from now forget him. dont waste too much time on anyone

[pascale]

Thank you. I think I just got a little impatient....I'll see him this week anyways

[okwhat2013]

Oh, they are not men. Hahaha Is really depends if he is shy or not. A shy guy will keep doing things like this forever until you make it clear you are into him. If he isn't a shy guy, after 2 more in person meetings he doesn't make a move I would question his interested. Honestly, just make it obvious to him, you already like him so does it really matter if you get instantly rejected or get rejected over two months of what ifs and maybes and 20 love forum threads. Good Luck.

[pascale]

Oh, they are not men. Hahaha Is really depends if he is shy or not. A shy guy will keep doing things like this forever until you make it clear you are into him. If he isn't a shy guy, after 2 more in person meetings he doesn't make a move I would question his interested. Honestly, just make it obvious to him, you already like him so does it really matter if you get instantly rejected or get rejected over two months of what ifs and maybes and 20 love forum threads. Good Luck.

Yeah, my guy friends said to make things more obvious. I'm just nervous about doing that without coming on too strong...

[smackie9]

He likes you dummy jezzzzzzzzzzzzusss. Maybe you are not sending clearer signals (some dorks need more than others). He is a churchie so he's probably going to be more old skool than what you are used to. He sounds like a great guy, so give him all you got...flirt like you mean it!

[surfhb2]

Advice ladies:

If a guy makes any effort to talk to you and give you any attention, he likes you. We dont go out of our way to just makes new friends so we can hang out

[michelle23]

pleasr tell that to am i crazy. he thinks im crazy for saying that lol. actually i was caled insecure. oh well

[pascale]

Yeah, I really don't know if he likes me that way. It's looking like a no...

[surfhb2]

Yeah, I really don't know if he likes me that way. It's looking like a no...

Why do you say that? Everything you said points to yes

[YoungCosmo]

He invited you!!!! And it's a group event? So! You have too many expectations about what it, "should," look like, instead of being able to sit back and just see what happens. And STOP contacting him....let him do a little pursuing. Ann

Great!...all the way up until your antiquated notion of the man should be pursuing..Are we back in the 50s? Hadn't noticed.

[pascale]

So, I saw him at an dance event last night and the second he saw me, he walked over gave me a hug, smiling. He introduced me to all of his friends there. Danced with me three times. But when the last song came on, he went up to my friend and asked her. Another guy had asked her, but he was the DJ, so here I was watching two guys ask the same girl to dance. My interest ended up getting to dance with her, although she didn't seem to want to dance with either of them...she looked very reluctant. I know she's single, and honestly I'm pretty sure they're just good friends. But yeah, watching that made me feel sad. I'll see him again tonight though at that event he invited me to. At this point, I don't know what to think.

[surfhb2]

So, I saw him at an dance event last night and the second he saw me, he walked over gave me a hug, smiling. He introduced me to all of his friends there. Danced with me three times. But when the last song came on, he went up to my friend and asked her. Another guy had asked her, but he was the DJ, so here I was watching two guys ask the same girl to dance. My interest ended up getting to dance with her, although she didn't seem to want to dance with either of them...she looked very reluctant. I know she's single, and honestly I'm pretty sure they're just good friends. But yeah, watching that made me feel sad. I'll see him again tonight though at that event he invited me to. At this point, I don't know what to think.

Honestly you need to step it up a notch....go to him first this time.

[michelle23]

he wasonly dancing relax. its still all good. just tell him you like him. its no big deal.