I just recently got out of a 2 year on and off relationship that I have moved on from, mentally and emotionally, months before the initial break-up. Recently, I have met an amazing guy, who is a genuine sweetheart. We both really like each other, and he has been making the moves first, he slipped out the words "I love you" a few times and we were just in our own, unrealistic, fantasy worlds, like little kids. We started dating a few days after talking, and we were both taking things really fast. We both stuck together when my psycho ex-boyfriend was trying to tear us apart and it added some pressure but we stuck through it. He said he is serious, so far, he sees potential because he doesn't want to casually date just anyone anymore and he has been through enough and wants this to work.. That being said, he now says we have been taking things too fast and he realizes he was doing it and wants to avoid making the same mistakes in the past and wants to take things realllllly slow so it can work out better for the long run, according to him.
He is a very private person and wants to know someone for a few months and date for at least a couple before being public about it, which I completely respect and agree with, 100%, but ever since my ex tried to cause something, a lot of people have found out .. A lot of people know.
I'm not delusional, and I know it's crazy to move this fast after only a couple weeks.... He is well aware and we were just in our own world, but he said he wants to keep it private for a while and is okay with putting sexual intimacy off, because its smarter for the both of us. Especially since he is moving 2 hours away for his career , and we have never done long distance before. He said he wants to take it slow because he doesn't want to ruin anything and be pressured and have it turn out like our past relationships.. He says he still wants to be with me and this "shouldn't affect anything with regards to how I feel about you, I still want you in my life, I don't want to leave or anything like that. I just think this is safer for us, since we both have the same intentions and feel the same way about one another."
I just wonder if there is anything I should look out for, or if this is a good thing?
I need to learn to be a more private person, as well... Any suggestions?