Is it good to start off as friends before entering a relationship with someone?
Is it bad to start off as friends because it will most likely throw you in the friendzone?
I know many people who've started as friends and eventually fallen in love. I think this works when neither party has considered dating the other. However, if one of you wants more than friendship, I think they are better of starting out being honest about what they want.
Is it bad to text for a date, instead of calling or asking in person? (I think I already know the obvious answer to this, but details would be nice)
Yes, it's bad to text for a date. Details? I guess texting just shows that you're lazy - or gutless...neither of which is going to add to your attractiveness. Texting also tells her that she's not worth the effort of putting yourself outside your comfort zone.
What do you think you would do if the girl seemed to be placing the "friend" title on you when you guys go and do stuff exclusively, though she knows your intentions?
Move on. Don't waste time with someone who's not wanting the same thing as you.
How do you break the touch barrier?
In small steps. A touch on the arm when you're emphasising a story. Putting your arm around her when someone is taking a photo.
How to avoid coming off as creepy/desparate? (I know this is what a lot of shy guys fear)
Don't initiate more than 75% of contact. If she says "no" to a date, accept that she's not interested and move on.
What usually leads to the friendzone?
Lack of flirting. If you treat her like a friend, she'll see you as a friend.
Is texting for dates after asking for the first date over the phone, or in person, acceptable?
No. Or at least, I wouldn't accept it. But I'm old so perhaps you want an answer from someone your own age.
Tips for first dates?
People will tell you to ask her about herself, but make sure to not do so in a series of questions. Let the conversation naturally flow from one topic to the next.
Is it okay to text a girl after getting her number and getting comfortable, before calling or something for a date?
It depends on your reason for contacting her. If you have stuff to say, don't send a wall of text.
What if she wants to "bring a friend" onto what you were hoping was a date?
Tell her you were planning it to be a "date". It's OK to assert yourself.
How/where to meet girls tips?
Assuming you're school age, try different school activities. If you're musical, get involved with other musical people at school. If you're academic, try the debating team. If you're interested in the school environment, try the School Council. If you're sporty, try athletics. If you're arty try the drama club. Even better when you choose activities which involve other schools. If you're religious, go to bible study.
Having said that, if you're at a single sex school, you're at a distinct disadvantage.
Difference between dating and hanging out?
If you're dating, you will have had a discussion about it.
Is it bad to ask a girl to hang out, if you want to be in a relationship with them?
The first time, it's OK. After that, if you still want more - then make it clear you want a date.
Hope that helps.
Last edited by basilandthyme; 01-11-13 at 10:10 PM.
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