This was a little over a year ago. And was very short term. None of this has gone on since then. I know this since I know his login info for fb, and all his screenlock passwords.
But back last year he had flirted with a small amount of other girls. One in particular. He would talk with her about places they've had sex. What their bodies look like. He asked her what she thought of his body. And would say what he thought of hers. Sex was never brought up. But just talking about each others bodies was already going too far. He said she initiated the chat, which I saw to be true. But he didn't have to agree to it. He and I may still have been just fwb back then, in his mind at least. But that's still no excuse. That still doesn't make it right, just because back then it wasn't an actual relationship between us.
And I saw a text to another friend where he told them that this girl from the above text, smelled good. And what should he do?
And another, he asked them if they knew of a girl, or two or three to toss his way. (this is when he and I were on a supposed break. But still)
And another thing is with this actual female friend of his, who he did have sex with once, long before he and I met, when they were both high. Last year, though he and I were involved, he told her he'd think of her in his dreams. And some days before that, he asked her if she'd come to Minnesota for some lovins. No way would a sensibly thinking person think that is ok to ask someone, when you're involved with someone else.
I see no reason to end things, based on that. But am I right in being bothered by it? He doesn't even flirt with other women now. But it's still the fact that I know about it now. So for me, it's not in the past, as it is for him. I have to deal with it now.
Now. I should mention the majority if not all of these texts were very late night/early morning texts. Very likely when he had been drunk. He did ALOT of drinking at the house he had been living at, at that time.
And it wasn't a good environment. Young people. Lots of alcohol, which is not good for him.
He was 40 at that time, and everyone who came to the house, and two of the people who also lived there, all in their twenties. And they all think it's cool to go out and get hammered, stay out til all hours. Really stupid stuff. Not a good environment for him.
My question is, based on the fact that very likely it was all done when he was drunk, and was very shortlived and over a year ago, should I just let it go. Or does he need to realize how this is affecting me now?
Instead of just telling me it's in the past. And ask why would I bring it up?