Originally Posted by
RobertWQ
What really makes me a bit sad about this whole thing though is that while both of these girls come from poor backgrounds (my family is reasonably affluent), I thought both had real potential and I wanted to help elevate them and their sense of themselves, as well as introduce them to some things and ideas and realizations about themselves that they may not have encountered in their day to day existence.
While I can't speak for other women, if a new a potential suitor had this attitude I'd head for the hills. While it's clear that you mean well, the plan comes across as very patronising.
I want someone who sees me as an equal - not someone who sees potential in me and considers ways he could broaden my world. That's the job of a teacher/parent/mentor. Not the job of a partner.
No offense intended - just something for you to mull over.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.