Dating someone "out of my league" appearence wise

[woody]

Okay, here goes...Let me start by saying I'm not over 6 foot, am not rich and all those superficial things that some girls go for. I'm "average Joe" dating an extremely attractive girl and who also has a brain. I'm someone say on those dating sites that was never approached cause they are based on looks. You can say I sell myself in person and have a good personality which contrary to popular belief works...

Anyways, I've only had like 6 relationships. I'm 35 and I don't wanna blow this one and see a future with her. We enjoy quality one on one time just in the house and don't feel the need to go out either which is great(especially on my wallet)--she has passed some huge tests for me where I'm almost trusting her 100%...I've been burned in previous relationships like anyone else...why, because nice guys usually end last and have hearts broken...

So as far as I know, she has not communicated over the phone in last 2 months with any other guy...yes, I checked her phone...so she is not foolin around with anyone else. We have verbally stated we only have eyes for each other and are officially gf/bf( I know that sounds teenager'ish)...here's my problem, when I ask her how her day went when I am not with her, she is always approached by other guys. For ex. I picked her up at a meeting and outside I see 3 guys talking to her outside smoking. She comes in car and I crack jokes like "how many of them gave you their number" or "what was the worst pick up line they said to you"...we both laugh but inside me is being over protective and yes that whole trust thing...

In public like say food shopping and she goes down one aisle to get say bread and I come back, there is always some guy it seems trying to spit game. It is what it is. It then feels good when the "player" sees me and I put my arm around her and give her a small kiss so I mark my territory and the guy knows he has no shot.

So in the back of my head I have this feeling like some rich tall dark handsome fellow will swoop in one day and she will ditch me....I guess I'll now if she REALLY loves me and this is all BS for now. Her mother even tells her, "marry a rich guy". I know this girl is sick of the games and wants to settle and have kids which I don't want yet until I have x amount in the bank to support them...

I'm sorry for the ramble but should I just not worry so much and go with the flow? Don;t get the impression of selling myself short or lack of confidence either in myself. It's almost as if I foresee things and plan for the worst so I'm not heart broken again even when things are going well which i want them to stay at

Dear Cuddler,

If her Family is telling her to marry a rich guy chances are she'd rather have a good man who's solid and trustworthy; someone who will treat her well and not hit on other women in the check out isles..

If she is this super attractive female constantly getting hit on, well, there's you answer. What kind of impression you think she's getting. That men are players, that's what and often, not mostly but often, not to be trusted.

You sound like a nice guy and probably good looking, more than you give yourself credit for. She knows what she has and I bet she'd much rather be with a good man over a playing son of a gun any day of the week, so to speak.

They will swarm. Hold the head high. She's with you. Deal with it and don't **** it up by projecting unjust insecurity right? Right.

My partner is stunning and constantly gets hit on by others. I don 't mind because at the end of the day, their with me and the trust is there. It's a beautiful thing.

Don't forget all you have to offer this girl.

[AnErin]

I still do not get why you want some drunk to begin with. I guess to me that is a deal breaker. Used to date someone who was stoned 24/7. Sex was good but got tired of him being stoned off his butt. I seen him tonight at a party and we are OK and he was like, "I never get to hang out with AnErin anymore..." as he was acting dumb. Handsome man, I mean damn good looking but sheee...

[michelle23]

Okay so you have decided to date an alcho just coz shes hot and bcoz you enjoy making other men feel jealous...

your too insecure to be in any sort of relationship. You dont want a wife, you want a trophy

[smackie9]

I still do not get why you want some drunk to begin with. I guess to me that is a deal breaker. Used to date someone who was stoned 24/7. Sex was good but got tired of him being stoned off his butt. I seen him tonight at a party and we are OK and he was like, "I never get to hang out with AnErin anymore..." as he was acting dumb. Handsome man, I mean damn good looking but sheee...

Ya being a bad drunk or alcoholic is a deal breaker for me too. I have turned down a few guys because of it. I grew up with an alcoholic mother and I know relationships get difficult.