Circumstantial Break-up Advice

[elephantgirl]

Hello,

I am going to keep this short and sweet.

My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up last week. For the past two months, I have been feeling distant because I feel lost in my life. During the month of March, we took some space from eachother. It was great for me, I got over a lot of my issues and realized that I don't want to lose my boyfriend. About a week ago, my boyfriend said he has been having sketchy feelings about me and feels it is because he also feels lost in his life and wants to figure himself out and NOT be in a relationship. He told me this on a Thursday, and we decided Sunday will be our last day together. Throughout the weekend I was trying to be supportive and understanding but I did have some moments of anger and heartbreak. On Sunday, our last day we tried to make it a fun happy day and it was until the evening, I cried, he cried and then I went home. Originally, our plan was to meet up on April 27th, to see how he was feeling but two days after we broke up I called him crying, I was upset and angry. Just talking to him on the phone made me again want to be understanding and supportive and we agreed for this to be an actual break up, one where we won't talk or see each other on April 27th.

I've been doing a lot of research how to get over a break up. I am doing the NCR for a minimum 30 days and then after until he talks to me. I am using this time to be a better me, a girl who is worth fighting for and also using the NCR for a detox. I want me and him to get back together. I love him so much, he is really a great guy and we had a honest and loving relationship. I read somewhere that eventually to write your ex a hand written letter, has anyone done this? I realized that the last few months of our relationship were not fun, because I was feeling lost and so was he and I just want to become the best me possible so he will want to be with me again. I feel we won't get back together until at least a year.

I guess, there isn't much to ask here, as I feel I know the answer to this whole thing and I am very well aware we may not get back together. I guess, i'm just asking for some support, advice? Has anyone been in this situation? I tried to keep it short and sweet.

Thank you,

[bekho]

You can do it I hope you will feel okay.

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[bekho]

You are doing the right things. I always say that timing is everything. Maybe it hasn't worked out now, but once your lives are back on track, who knows what will happen. I remember watching the movie "the breakup". Silly movie but the ending was quite poignant.

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[elephantgirl]

Thank you for your reply

I can't remember the ending. I thought they didn't get back together?