but my expectations are caused by her refusal to act like we are just frioends, and inability to not flirt and make me expect more
I recommend you believe her words and not her actions on this one because, as a woman, she may simply be working on that form of "rap" in the mean time, just for practice.
I gave up half way through reading it as it hurt my eyes :/ From what i DID read though she seems to be loving all the attention your giving her, maybe chill and steer clear for a while and see what happens ?