thanks for all the replies. i think i just need to give her space and move on in the mean time, which I am doing. though it's hard because we both work together. i know she has bad traits that have been displayed because of this situation but so have i. we both found ourselves acting in ways that we never thought would happen. i can out weigh the negative with the positive though because she's just human, a confused human, with a shitty past and a shitty current situation. she'll miss me, and all the times i made her happy. she'll compare, like any human would.