Originally Posted by
daddyo5423
I watch her kids be overcome with panic because they know he is around.
Which he? The father or the uncle?
This is an ugly ugly situation and I can understand you questioning everything. If you are certain there is more to the story, sit her down and ask her. Tell her if she is scared you'll leave if you know then you have a right to know so you can make that decision yourself.
The fact that the family turned their backs on her and the Uncle screams volumes to me. If the father of her children was such an arsehole to her, wouldn't the family support her and her chances for happiness? I know there is something to be said for family loyalty but I have an arsehole brother and if one of his exes found comfort with my sweet brother, I'd wish them the best (admittedly neither of my brothers have kids). Even then I'd be supportive, atleast the kids would be with family.
It sounds to me like you gf is attracted to drama.
'People are never perfect but love can be. People waste time looking for the perfect lover rather than creating the perfect love' - Princess Leigh-Cheri from Still Life With Woodpecker.