Well, David and I talked about a lot of things last night. He said that he was feeling really overwhelmed with school and is going to drop one of his classes which will free up some time and hopefully with his stress level down things won't be quite as bad. Something that worries me is that when I said I wanted us to take more time for ourselves, he got incredibly upset. I made it clear that I need more time to get stuff done, because I'm already falling behind in school and I barely eat/sleep because of my work and school schedule. We've seen each other every single day except one for the past year or so and we don't live together. So it's been a bit excessive/distracting lol I think that this will be a good 'test' for our relationship. We need to be able to do things independently of each other, and if he really has a problem with me pursuing my degree then our issues probably can't be resolved. But like you said, if things do go further south I'll at least know that I tried.
Jeez, you aren't kidding. We've both changed so much since we started going out together. It's hard to keep up. Yeah...I was running on no food and 4 hours of sleep yesterday and I think I was just looking for something to verify my feelings and I kept finding those articles about codependency and identified with them lol But I think you're right about that, I looked some more into it and it's total crap, it's not even in the DSM. Guess this means no more excuses for me!
I have encouraged him so many times to get help. The way that he talks sometimes I'm afraid he's going to do something drastic, especially if I leave :/ That's one of the biggest things that's kept me from ending things already, because we have had a pretty rocky relationship overall. He's depressed so often and I just don't know how to make it better. He refuses to talk to someone because he thinks that western psychology is useless.
Yes, or when I talk about something and less than a minute later he asks a question that I had just answered in what I said. That happens so often, it's like he doesn't even listen to me sometimes. If he spent as much time listening to me as he does staring at my chest I think things would be a lot better. Lol!
Thanks again, I appreciate your level headed responses