I understand that Hugo but when you do something specifically to make someone do something else your mainuplating them. do you see what I'm saying? Your telling her to excercise (even though she may not do so already) to make him follow (because he will feel guilty) to change something about himself. You didn't blanelty say to manipulate him, but what your telling her to do is a form of manaipulation. I'm not trying to pick you apart, just trying to say that's not the best way to go about it, because you don't want soemone to feel guilty so they do something, you want them to want to do it for themselves.