Relationship problems :(

[IndiReloaded]

More like HAL in 2001 Space Odyssey

Really? I could read that in a number of different ways. HAL was deadly, but he also got his plug pulled eventually.

[Karamailla]

Ok ok, understood, back on topic now please..

Exactly, it's not that im obsessed with sex or anything, I wouldnt want to have it like everyday, just a normal sex life would be fine. But I would really like my wife/partner to be aroused by me, and take initiative equally, or close to.

I really do think she wants to stay with me because of companionship, and I also enjoy it very much. But the fact remains that I do not feel happy and I can't seem to avoid the conclusion that this isn't going to last much longer.

She just wants to settle as soon as possible, while I really feel like 'dating around'. Getting to know a lot of other people, be on my own, etc. I also realised that if I were to end up in a new relationship, if my current one ends, I would take it much slower.

A key point that only gigabitch noticed is that im not happy, and there have never been any real strong feelings to begin with. I never got the butterfly feelings, or any other indication of falling in love with her deeply. What has developed though, is a very warm companionship. Thats exactly what makes it so darn hard to end it, because it also means something to me. Yet I realise that I should be honest with her about that.

Oh well, I'll wait a bit until i've got my own place and see how it goes. If nothing changes i'll just have to tell it to her. Any tips on how to do such a difficult thing?

[vashti]

I think you should man up and tell her the truth, which is simply that you are not interested in the same sort of relationship that she is, and that in fact, you would like to date around. That's the truth, isn't it? You would be doing her a great kindness if you quit wasting her time and let her move on.

[IndiReloaded]

Funny how your post made the crickets chirp, Vash... I agree, BTW.

[nuttybuddy]

Hey, your post reminds me of another post I read. It sounds like your future....

Giga has deleted a link to another relationship forum here...

Please send that in a private message, nutty.

[nuttybuddy]

Okaaaaaay, the link I posted was deleted by someone, so if you still want to read the post that I am referring to, just let me know. I'll sent it to you privately.

[CAM]

Really? I could read that in a number of different ways. HAL was deadly, but he also got his plug pulled eventually.

Well, don't we all in the long run...get our plug pulled, that is. HAL was just a determined soul...misunderstood. LOL

[Ellynn]

Personally, if your not happy then I would say you should end things. Why settle when you aren't happy? Sure you are comfortable with her and everything, but I think a good relationship requires more then just "brother/sister like" feelings. You obviously are feeling like something is missing...and I hate to say it, but you always will until you find what you are looking for. I'm not trying to say that there is the "perfect" person out there.....but maybe the "perfect" person for you. You owe it to yourself to try to find that person. Your gf also deserves to be with someone who is happy with her and wants to be with her and WANTS the same things she wants.
I say end things with her.....THEN move on and pursue things with other people.