I dont want to lose my girl! Please help!!

[gpxcrazy]

eh! sounds like a heart breaking story! In my opinion take ur girl to dinner.tell her to get her **** straight,its either she wants to be with u, and has feelings for you,or she doesnt! it cant be that she doesnt know if she wants to be in a relationship,cuz at the end it will turn into relationshi*! if she doesnt get her drama straight,just live ur life,enjoy it.from my own experience friends and vodka is the best cure for the next couple of days!
eh i hope u work things out with her.i know how u feel..good luck to you!

[cand85]

Thanks. We hung out last night and it was sweet up until the end.. everything was going great and it felt like we might be back on track even though she said she still cant decide. Then (this will sound stupid) but when i arrived home i check my facebook and she has changed her relationship status to single an hour after i left!!! So i called her and asked her what was going on and she lied and said nooo no i changed it ages ago when we broke up its not like that, even though this was clearly bs. Why would she do that and lie about it?? She still wont let go of 'us' but she wont grab hold either. This sucks.

[vashti]

She still wont let go of 'us' but she wont grab hold either. This sucks.

Why are you letting her call all the shots? You are just as responsible for the state of this relationship as she is. Why don't YOU let her go?

[GrkScorp]

Why are you letting her call all the shots? You are just as responsible for the state of this relationship as she is. Why don't YOU let her go?

Most women feel it's the man's job to LEAD things.

Most men are then lead to think that it's a man's job to LEAD things, and a woman's job to RESIST.

Actually, it's a man's job to do both; and you haven't done either, in fact, you've left her doing both; nice job.

[dsadsa]

wow i've been in your position about 2 weeks ago, when my girl and i broke up.
The position i'm in right now is the after math of my insecurity, anger, jealousy, and hatred i have grown toward my ex.
i have been going out with her for two years and we broke up about a hundred thousand times.(so trust me i've been through all the stages)
the best advice i think i could give you is: DO NOT SHOW HER YOUR TRUE INNER EMOTIONS. i am not saying lie to the girl i am simply stating that how you feel at the moment(feeling betrayed or used or lonely or afraid or whatever) will lead you to say things that you might regret later on.
basically be a man and suck it up(cry in the closet later on if you have to) but in front of her talk logic not emotion. state and ask only the facts such as: "Do you still have feelings for this other guy?" "This relationship is not healthy for either one of us. i think it's best if i give you some alone time to think this over. give me a call once you sorted this whole thing out." NOTE: that when you are saying this do not sound whiny, insecure, or too easy to get back with, just sound logical.(even though you feel weak look strong when your in front of her)
and after the conversation you could leave immediately and go cry a river or call 4 of your wildest friends and drink vodca or jack all night long. GOOD LUCK keep the story posted

[kristina2]

hello,
hey i totally agree with cand85,lv ur self nd take a chill.
thanks.