Ladies- what if you know another girl is after your crush?

[FoxyLaydee]

Would you step up your game? Or would you let her have him? Does this depend on how the guy reacts?

Just curious.

It depends on how long I have been with the guy. If it was still new then I could care less - she can have him.

If it was a LTR - I'd step up to the game but really, if the guy wants her then I can't stop him! I'd be better off with someone else!

[Mish]

If a girl is not showing you the interest you want, what do you (all) think of revealing a bit of one of your days to her and mention casually when she asks about your weekend about a date with an other girl you had and how great it was with this new person you just met? (as in being honest, if you date multiple people). So she can realize something good is slipping and step up her game. Good idea? Ja? Nein?

[lemonade69]

I think that depends on the self esteem of the girl. It could backfire. Not everyone thrives on competition <-- to me, that is a negative character trait, even. I cannot STAND catty bitches who have to 'win' at everything and ruin things for other ppl, sorry.

With that said, I think a girl who only wants to date you when they have competition does not truly want to date you.

[vashti]

Yeah, I'm not the type who will compete, either. A guy who really is interested in me won't be swayed by someone else. I tend to associate competitiveness with stereotypical male behavior.

[FoxyLaydee]

A guy who really is interested in me won't be swayed by someone else.

I hear ya!

How do you (everyone else too) feel about other women/men checking out your SO/BF/GF?

[vashti]

I don't care. I suppose I was probably a bit less secure when I was in my teens/early 20s, though.

[FoxyLaydee]

I don't care. I suppose I was probably a bit less secure when I was in my teens/early 20s, though.

LOL - yeah. I actually enjoy it.

[lemonade69]

If the hottest girl in the world checked my bf out, I wouldn't care. But if it was someone who he was attracted to before (not just the physical), then yeah I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel at least a bit threatened. A LOT would depend on how my bf responded though. If they flirted, I'd feel like getting up and giving that b*tch a bitchslap, lol!

Just curious, has anyone ever got into a physical fight over something like this?

[FoxyLaydee]

Just curious, has anyone ever got into a physical fight over something like this?

I haven't gotten into any physical fight over a man. There was this one time, a guy invited me to join him and his friends to a club - went there with a bunch of my girlfriends and his ex ended up there and saw us dancing together. She had a BF and made a scene. I just left the dance floor.

[lesa]

I don't do competitions. I would completely ignore the other girl and let him decide who he wants---that is, if I am still available.

I hear ya!

How do you (everyone else too) feel about other women/men checking out your SO/BF/GF?

I take it as a major compliment.