Should I accept an open relationship??

[Dasein]

I spoke with her briefly today and now it appears that I took the open relationship the wrong way. We'll talk more later tonight about this but now it's as if I got this whole situation wrong.


Thanks for the quick reply's.

Or did you think that we would go "Yeah open relationships are so 2009 you should definitely do it."

Of course the majority of people will not agree with open relationships. It is fraught with WAY too many problems & issues. I think what you need to do is let her go. If she loves you then she will come back. If not then it wasn't meant to be.

[Mish]

She feels like I'm such a good man for accepting this. And if I don't I'm not being understanding of her feelings.

This is deffinently not what I want but I can't help it, I don't want to come off as a mean guy and selfish.

Sorry, I didn't read all of the replies, but the above sounds VERY manipulative. You are not understanding her feelings? What is she doing to understand YOUR feelings that you are not comfortable with this? Don't be so ready to roll over for her on this, it's a very important issue which will affect your entire relationship.

Be prepared to walk away if there's no deal.

[Charlie Boy II]

I would go for it. If it wasn't for STDs I'd make all my relationships open

[vashti]

I would go for it. If it wasn't for STDs I'd make all my relationships open

Marital relationships, too?

MuMu - I think you should consider breaking off with her for 6 months or so. Give her a chance to explore other areas and see if she really wants you. It is better she do this before you propose, or god forbid, get married. I warn you though, she may not come back, so I'd suggest you take that time to explore other options, too. If in 6 months you find you both still want each other, then you can re-establish your relationship and eventually propose.

[DharmicLove]

You want to get engaged and she wants an "open" relationship. Open relationship = open legs. Do NOT propose to someone who is letting some other guy into her cookie jar.

You should break up with her and tell her to come back when she's ready to get serious.

I'm definitely agreeing with my homegirl on this one. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule, and if you dont necessarily agree with me, or the majority of this thread, then I would suggest you try it out.

Only you know whats best for you. If you feel like you love this girl enough, and you can look past the fact that she desires an open relationship, then by all means, dive in head first.

You can see yourself - and I suppose thats why you started this thread - that this could be a potentially dangerous situation. We're talking possible STD's here or maybe even worst.