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    @ Devi, thanx a lot - I feel the same way you do. In my oppinion love should never be compromised by anything.

    The problem I see with "us" is that our relationship didn't evolve to the point where it could be strong enough to fight all possible obstacles. I'm in love, true, but even now, at this stage, I'm not sure if this is the person I'd be willing to spent the rest of my life with. I would like to find out though. We simply didn't discover each other enough. And as it looks, we never will. There was this noticed potential that gave me the drive...but with her, it seems she just decided to stop everything before it gets to far....she didn't give us a chance. Unfortunately...

    Of course I had nothing to lose and she has. So I kinda understand the situation. It's hard to accept it, but I'll try...

    However, I stil believe (and will until proven differently) love conquers all. True love that is.

    As for "going on". Yeah, that sure sounds like the only way now but it's just so darn hard. I feel like someone just ripped a good book of my hands before I even got to the find out what's it about...an unfinished story...love incomplete...

    Thanx for support

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    Well, folks...it's back

    Not "us", I'm affraid...but the whole situation.

    After the breakup I gathered strength and somehow went away...moved on. I felt things were going pretty good and after awhile I didn't feel as bad as before. It turned out, she didn't. she later explained she had a terrible time and couldn't stand loosing me...couldn't stand me trying to get over it. She admited she began to realise how important I was to her and I was probably one of the best things that ever happened to her (certainly nice to hear that). So we talked...and suddenly, I began thinking of her again which is probably quite normal. After she told me, she's trying to deal with herself and try to figure out why and how it all went wrong, I started thinking of giving us another try...not right away though. I want her to decide 100% and I'll insist on us having a loooong talk about it before we do anything. Despite many things wrong, theres just something that draws me towards her...and its really intense.

    So I found myself in the situation of knowing what to do. I feel like being "paused". What would you guys suggest me to do? Just wait or try to move on (which I believe I can) despite her trying to somehow fix it all back? Of course, I'd love to see her figuring things out quick but I don't want to rush it by no means. It just takes time...We ran into each other a couple of times since the breakup and I don't know exactly how to behave (and I can tell, neither does she). It's a strange feeling and I'm not sure if it's wise to see each other before she does her "thinking". What do you guys suggest?

    Thnx!

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    Move on with your life, work in fixing you and your life. If your lives co-mingle again in the future so be it, but you shouldn't be waiting for someone else to fix themselves to give you another chance.

    Hell, I just married someone who once broke my heart so badly that I went on anti-depressants to keep from killing myself. She changed, I changed, but it took time. Years of time.

    Lots of healing, lots of time, lots of introspection. Oh, and a lot of apologizing on her part, she still apologizes at least once a week.
    "Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."

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    Yeah, I say push the gas, if she cares enough she'll catch up.

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    Ok, thanx to both!

    I'm just somehow affraid I might meet someone one day and she'll be a history. What a crazy fear huh?

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    Quote Originally Posted by mad_love View Post
    Ok, thanx to both!

    I'm just somehow affraid I might meet someone one day and she'll be a history. What a crazy fear huh?
    Turn that fear into a hope.

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