Originally Posted by
DoesntMatter
Kids are discouraged from fighting back, which is a serious problem. It leads to depression and a sense of helplessness. I think kids who are bullied should be encouraged to fight back
Children learn the basic concepts.... physically standing up to a bully in school translates to emotionally/mentally standing up the the bullies at work... Turning the other cheek doesn't work when you're being sexually harassed... Turning the other cheek doesn't work when your neighbor threatens you with a lawsuit...
Whoever came up with 'ignore the bully' was an idiot... you don't ignore the bully --- you take steps to make yourself too much hassle to be a target.
I went to a country school for a few years in Elementary school... and I remember two older boys arguing in the hallway... I had watched these boys over time... clearly one was bullying the other since the school year began. Well the bully had finally pushed him too far and he wasn't going to take it anymore... So after the bully punched him, he waylaid on him... it was near insanity how hard he punched the bully... The teachers heard the commotion and much to my surprise, they didn't stop the fight... Even the principle was there... Instead, they let the fight continue on for about a minute or so... there was a crowd of kids all around. When it seemed the boy being bullied was getting the upper hand, that's when they broke up the fight. From then on, the boy wasn't bullied, most of the school saw the fight, and everyone agreed the bully had his ass kicked. It was a really nice school, very peaceful. Fights were few and far between.
"The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."
- James Allen