Once a Liar always a liar

[Ruguy]

Good question. So it is your opinion that once someone lied to you, he or she will continue to do this until he or she will be caught again.

[Sonrisa]

are you stating my opinion?

[Ruguy]

Nope. Just trying to confirm If I am clearly understanding your posts.

[Sonrisa]

lying - everyone does it in one form or the other, either that would be to protect your partner or yourself.

cheating - physically, mentally, emotionally. there are many ways to cheat, and we all do it.

[Ruguy]

I absolutley agree with you on the lying.

Cheating: Physical - is the worth possible way and if caught, usualy lead to break up. This is what you do not do if you repect yourself in the first place.

Mentaly and Emosionally: I am putting my head down and nod in responce. Most of us are guity of that.

[Sonrisa]

are there any good excuses for cheating?

[vashti]

what would you call fantasizing about other men?

Normal. (Unless you are newlyweds.)

[Ruguy]

Yes.

I disregarded my g-friend at that time over being a drunk and careless prick who would just party. She turned to her ex to perform mental and emosional cheating on my ass. Thanks God, I was able to recover our relationship and straigten things out.

Should I not trust her ever again?

[Ruguy]

Sorry.. forgot to mention. We are married now

[IndiReloaded]

I absolutley agree with you on the lying.

Cheating: Physical - is the worth possible way and if caught, usualy lead to break up. This is what you do not do if you repect yourself in the first place.

Mentaly and Emosionally: I am putting my head down and nod in responce. Most of us are guity of that.

There's a simple test I use to distinguish b/t these things:

"We are not responsible to others for our thoughts, only our acts of will".

Thoughts allow us to play out all kinds of scenarios in our heads BEFORE we have to deal with the real-world consequences of carrying them out.

To give an extreme example, most married folk have dreamed of murdering their spouses (figuratively or otherwise) , however, only actually carrying it out is considered a crime.

Thus, cheating in one's head is not really cheating. Even emotional cheating is dodgy, as many people don't really think its a big deal especially if the other spouse isn't bothered by it. E-cheating is a recent buzz term that is way overused, IMO. Lots of married couples flirt harmlessly with other people and are totally fine with it. Secure, or even titillated by it, in fact. It really depends on how the offended party views it. Like Vash, I would say its more 'inappropriate', and perhaps a warning sign for a potential physical affair.

[doppelgaenger]

That's why I don't like relationships. At least I know I will never cheat on myself.

[IndiReloaded]

I said it was dodgy, and that it depended on how the offended party viewed it. Way to misinterpret my post, I didn't say that e-affair were *always* okay (or not).

Anyway, you weren't cheating in your head. Nice try tho, D.

[Sonrisa]

it is dodgy. i think everyone tries to make an excuse for having an emotional affair. but when faced with your partner doing it we go bananas.

[Ruguy]

So, How would you handle an emtional affair once you find out?

Would you leave or would you find out why it happened and try to fix it, especialy if you love someone a great deal.

Would you continue checking on your spouse 24/7 to prevent being hurt again?
Or
Would you just say: "I trust you again" and move on?

[Aeradalia]

I would probably get along quite well with someone who had cheated on others in the past... as they may be a 'good' person in other things...

But I would never consider being romantically involved with them... because quite frankly... it'd be a relationship in which I could never trust them.