Threesomes

[Charlie Boy II]

yeah I'd only want a threesome if it were two hot random sluts who were fully up for it.

[misombra]

I think people are a sorry bunch if they're incapable of loving more than one person. You all can spout all you want about a one true love, a soul mate, a this, a that. Rubbish. I'm more than capable of loving two, three, hell, dozens of people.

Why are your hearts so shriveled and cold?

pero tu no reconoces lo que es amar.

[lesa]

Why are your hearts so shriveled and cold?

Why can't you actually have a threesome, and make your relationship among 3 people, instead of between 2? How could that **** anything up? Several members on here claim so much that humans are polygamous by nature... so why can't a 3 person relationship work out?

That's where the drama comes in. Someone may eventually feel insecure. I am guessing very few people can handle a true relationship with several different people like the polygamists. When people say they want a threesome, they usually mean have sex with a person (a sex toy). I would like to hear someone say they desire a threesome relationship like in polygamy. They date them all, hangout, say "I love you's". The whole nine yards .

[Lite]

I think people are a sorry bunch if they're incapable of loving more than one person. You all can spout all you want about a one true love, a soul mate, a this, a that. Rubbish. I'm more than capable of loving two, three, hell, dozens of people.

Why are your hearts so shriveled and cold?

I love many people in my life. However between work and my personal life I find myself only capable of truly investing the necessary energy to maintain a single partner relationship.

And, when you involved a bunch of humans who are generally insecure, you get problems when it comes to sex and relationship strength.

I have yet to see a poly relationship work long term, and the people I know who engage in them are effectively emotionally damaged in a serious manner. So rather than attempt to trust and care about one person, they spread it all out among several people so that they don't have to cope with/deal with disappointments from one person. And eventually stresses will **** it all up anyway.

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

My reasons for agreeing with Mish is because there are alot less emotions attached. Less likely that an arguement will strike about him ****ing her more or watching her more or something of that sort. It's sorta like a one night stand/booty call.

I swear, sometimes I think Aeradalia and I have the same mindsets at the same time. I've been contemplating this lately, but I know how I am, and I wouldnt want to destroy our relationship because of something I caused in the first place. So knowing my insecurities will show up, I put it off. I wouldnt only be doing it for his pleasure, but I really have this urge to do it with a girl and a guy ever since I told you guys. I have never lost the urge.

I would consider seriously doing it with a guy friend and one of his female friends. I personally rather not know the girl but it would of course be with a guy who I trust will bring around a decent girl. One thing I require is big boobs.

[lesa]

I've been contemplating this lately, but I know how I am, and I wouldnt want to destroy our relationship because of something I caused in the first place. So knowing my insecurities will show up, I put it off. I wouldnt only be doing it for his pleasure, but I really have this urge to do it with a girl and a guy ever since I told you guys. I have never lost the urge.

I would consider seriously doing it with a guy friend and one of his female friends. I personally rather not know the girl but it would of course be with a guy who I trust will bring around a decent girl. One thing I require is big boobs.

[Mish]

Mish, the people in this documentary were all married.

Not for very long

[misombra]

i could never share my bf with another person at the same time in the same room or on a plane or in the rain.

just thinking about the implications send my stomach into my throat.

[Mish]

I think people are a sorry bunch if they're incapable of loving more than one person. You all can spout all you want about a one true love, a soul mate, a this, a that. Rubbish. I'm more than capable of loving two, three, hell, dozens of people.

Why are your hearts so shriveled and cold?

Threesomes are not about love, they are about lust. If you are in a relationship then by definition you agree to constrain your lust to only one person.

[Aeradalia]

I tend to be very secure with a relationship... and have the 'innocent till proven guilty' approach to infidelity. I have been through two relationships in which the guy has cheated on me... but they were only caught once and the relationship immediately dissolved. Past infidelities from partners have not introduced a fear that any new partner may cheat. If they are destined to cheat... it will manifest sooner or later... and dreading it will not make it hurt any less should it happen.

I want to do this.. because as Nisha mentioned... it's a notion that has not left me... and nor is it a notion that has left him. I would choose the women who are to participate and he would choose the men --- that would remove one type of insecurity --- "Why did they pick him/her?"

The people who would participate with us would either be one person who would essentially be a 'sex toy' him and I share... or we would include another couple and 'swing.' In both cases... such individuals would be screened for STD's... and we'd know them long enough to determine if they can handle being in a threesome/foursome --- emotionally.

As for remaining with one person and excluding all others sexually... that tends to be a trait favored more by females than males. The inclusion of extra women sexually probably wouldn't affect too many men in a negative way. I know with my own guy... he doesn't mind the idea of including an extra woman. As for me... I would prefer to screen the women to alleviate any insecurities I may have that haven't made themselves apparent yet.

Both him and I have talked about keeping all that we do in such a scenario equal... consensual... and agreed on by both before proceeding. And as another poster said... we've both agreed that should one no longer want to 'play'.. then the threesome would be over -- no pressure to continue... etc.

We both like the idea of sharing another person --- female... as I am bi and he is straight... and for both of us, it wouldn't be so much as wanting the individual involved... but more as a way to be thrilled (because it's 'wrong' to include another according to traditional standards --- and we both like things that are mildly taboo....) and would be a way to... for lack of a better word... 'show off' to the other and compete on who could please her best... etc.

The entire threesome experience would be 'us' playing with an extra person for entertainment... just another way to tie into our sexuality which happens to include playfulness, mildly taboo things, role playing, and more traditional methods of sex as well. This would not be something we plan on doing immediately... rather just let the relationship progress on its own... and when it seems stable enough... see if this is something we could both enjoy.

[misombra]

my threesome happened in the most preferable way i think. three friends were just hanging around, wine was being drunk. we were dipping strawberries in whip cream, and dressed in little cause desert summers are hot as fuk.

the stars were aligned perfectly for it that day.

[Mish]

Mine happened a long time ago with complete strangers, women I had no emotional attachment to and which I didn't see after wards. That's the only way I would ever have it. Imo, having it any other way is asking for trouble.

[Aeradalia]

Threesomes are not about love, they are about lust. If you are in a relationship then by definition you agree to constrain your lust to only one person.

And if you and the one you love agree to temporarily allow such lust to be shared with an extra person in each others presence... then the lust is still constrained to one person... for you asked for their permission.

[Mish]

And if you and the one you love agree to temporarily allow such lust to be shared with an extra person in each others presence... then the lust is still constrained to one person... for you asked for their permission.

That's not the way I see it. I certainly wouldn't want to see a woman who I love, a woman I would consider being a future mother of my children fukked by another person right in front of me. No matter how you want to sugar coat it.

[Aeradalia]

That's not the way I see it. I certainly wouldn't want to see a woman who I love, a woman I would consider being a future mother of my children fukked by another person right in front of me. No matter how you want to sugar coat it.

If I allowed them to **** another person... then I wouldn't have a problem with seeing them **** another person. My views are just different from yours. Yes, I would still feel committed to that person... and I would still want to be with them... the act itself changes nothing --- it would be how they feel afterward that would be of concern to me.

I've had threesomes before --- while I was married. And from my standpoint, I did not feel jealousy or worried in regards to my then husband.

The extra person... from my viewpoint is a 'sex toy'... nothing more than a fleshlight or a blowup doll... just with more interactivity. And if we both agree that this is the way you have to see it... then the problems should remain mild and few.