How do I deal with this situation?

[Reath]

So, how do I tell her? I have totally no idea how and what I should do. Any tips or something? I don't want to freak her out by just saying it out from the blues or something.

[Gigabitch]

Well, you could tell her you noticed her "soulmate" comment and ask her to tell you what that's all about.

[Reath]

I'll do that. Will keep you guys posted... >.<"

[IndiReloaded]

If you both like pets, mbe go visit a local SPCA shelter together? Or a park w/ a petting zoo?

[Reath]

I would prefer if you don't hijack my thread for your love problem... but anyway, what you felt maybe cause you're confused with the spurr of moment. Think carefully the reason why you split up with him in the first place. Did you not make it a clean breakup? Also, I don't trust rebounded relationship... that's my thought though you may have different opinions.

[carl1222]

Post your own thread, Mupsik, and we'll be happy to try to help you.

Carl.

[mupsik86]

Hey Carl and Reath....thx, I will be glad to do that, my only little problem is that I am so new at this that I dunno how extractlly how to use this thing. I was just in a really sad mood yesterday and talking to my gfriends about it wouldn't help at all, so I just googled " love Forums", and here I am.... sorry if I ruind your tread , I didn't mean to....(a)
but, ok....how do I creaty my own tread?
....and btw thanks for not being mean I really apreaciate it

[carl1222]

Mupsik ... welcome

Just click on one of the forums (i.e. "Love Advice Forum"), and when the list of threads comes up, look just below the list on the extreme left for the button "New Thread" Click it and enter your problem/question.

Carl.

[mupsik86]

Carl I did it!!!!!
I created my own tread!!! fun fun fun!! now you can leave your comments on my tread DDD
thank you

[Reath]

What should I do? I chatted her on the MSN and brought up this soulmate stuff and she kinda ignore it.

Me: Hey, when you're gonna update your blog?
Her: I don't know. When I felt like it. Why?
Me: I was reading through and I saw this "soulmate" of yours. Who's he? Someone I know or something?
*10 minute pause and I know she's still infront of her computer.
Her: Hey I'm kinda busy you know. Maybe we can chat some other times yeah?
Me: Uhh.. okay... night.
Her: Goodnight

So, someone... what does this mean?

[mupsik86]

that means that she is not telling you something or she's trying to ignore you Reath, sorry it sounds mean but...it's true I think I know a solution. Try to not talk to her about couple of days, see what happens next... she might get concerned that you found someone else and she will try to win your attention again, IF she liked it before.
I've been in that situation myself, so, take word for it try it...

[carl1222]

Who knows? It really doesn't tell you anything.

It could be someone else and she's embarrassed to tell you who, or ...
It could be you and she's embarrassed to tell you who.

Now that it's out in the open, just pay attention to how she responds to you ... but don't push it.

Now don't you wish you had just asked her out and avoided all this drama and speculation?

Carl.

[Reath]

Don't need to try it. It already happen before. It was like we never contact each other for 3~4 weeks straight and I can't stand it anymore. She can't reply my text cause before this thing start, she told me her phone's credit's empty. So I emailed her telling her I wanted to give her the worksheet and stuffs as an excuse.

Few days later, she called me and told me to come to her class. She's like she unaffected... but I do know why, because she had to solo a group assingment. Got overworked too and sent to the hospital twice...

End to end I wanna say it's like she isn't trying to get my attention. However like the previous post, she talked to me a lot about herself but she never really asked much about me... Is this strange?

PS: I know I kinda messed up what I wanna say in the first post too.

[carl1222]

Anny might be completely right ... but then again it's just as likely she is completely wrong. Her (the girl's) MSN messages convey NO information whatsoever, so anything is just speculation.

I still stay with my original advice ... ask her out on a date, and you will get your answer whether it's good or it's bad. Forget the "soulmate" conversation completely, or that you even brought it up. Also forget "waiting" so you can see if she misses you.

I fail to understand why you are looking for indirect answers to a question that is begging for a DIRECT answer.

Carl.

[Reath]

Who knows? It really doesn't tell you anything.

It could be someone else and she's embarrassed to tell you who, or ...
It could be you and she's embarrassed to tell you who.

Now that it's out in the open, just pay attention to how she responds to you ... but don't push it.

Now don't you wish you had just asked her out and avoided all this drama and speculation?

Carl.

Yeah... but I guess if it's not because of this matter, I won't ever come across this site which I'm thankful to came across Met good people like you, constructive comments and stuffs too.

However I really can't stress enough about the facts that she's giving me all these strange vibes of being buddy buddy. I mean like she wanted me to say as her best friend or something. I don't know how to really put it down into words...