A painting that made me feel uneasy....

[latinking101]

anytime. glad i could help

[Bella82]

It sounds like you have a better idea of why you felt the way you did when you saw it. I think the main idea here is that it's a picture that was done way before you two met, which she likes enough to hang in her bedroom.. I know it's easy for us to say it's nothing to worry about it, because we aren't you, but from an outsider's perspective I don't see any problem at all with it. I completely agree with being honest, I'm in a relationship where we both tell each other everything, and it's great, but I think you definitely made a smart move by not bringing it up before you were sure of why it made you feel uncomfortable.

It sounds like the both of you are very open-minded and understanding, but it doesn't do either any good if one of you can't express exactly how you feel. It's best to wait, and maybe you'll decide you want to bring it up later, or not at all because it isn't an issue.

[Mish]

Last night, was the first time I spent the night at her place. I walked into her bedroom, and saw this huge painting of a naked lady over the bed. I asked "What is that?" and she said "That's me." I was immediately creeped out.

I agree with Gizbug, this is a bit weird.

Personally, I'm not a whinger and I respect that everyone has had past partners and that's fine. But seeing a huge naked painting of a girl I'm dating in her bedroom would definetly turn me off. First thoughts I'd have is "Lesbo". Then after she explained this is her, my second thoughts would be "Narcissist", I'd wonder if she's of variety who gets off admiring herself in the mirror during sex. Then after she'd explain this was done by some ex she was with for 5 years, my thoughts would be "well she's obviously not over him" and I would put some serious thought into whether I should continue this affair.

So there's absolutely nothing wrong with Gizbug feeling squimish about the whole thing. And honestly, I don't have a good advice on this. You're damned if you do, you're damned if you don't. If you tell her you may come off as insensitive and selfish, if you don't tell her this thing is going to bother you. But on the other hand if you tell her and she ignores what you say, then you are left with a choice to accept or forfeit. It's a sensitive situation, good luck with whichever decision you make!

[Bella82]

I agree with Gizbug, this is a bit weird. First thoughts I'd have is "Lesbo". Then after she explained this is her, my second thoughts would be "Narcissist", I'd wonder if she's of variety who gets off admiring herself in the mirror during sex. Then after she'd explain this was done by some ex she was with for 5 years, my thoughts would be "well she's obviously not over him" and I would put some serious thought into whether I should continue this affair.

And honestly, I don't have a good advice on this. You're damned if you do, you're damned if you don't.

I disagree here. From this point of view the girl is the one who's screwed no matter what because it seems you've already formed this opinion of her and why she would have that picture on her wall. Why not commit yourself to being open-minded to her answer when you ask about the painting? If you're not prepared to do that, don't bother asking... !

[xxazurexx]

I might have a naked pic of me done and hang it on my wall

[Mish]

I disagree here. From this point of view the girl is the one who's screwed no matter what because it seems you've already formed this opinion of her and why she would have that picture on her wall.

I don't understand what you disagree with here. You disagree with people forming opinions on wierd behaviour of other people?

Well then I disagree with your disagreement