Is there such a thing as too big?

[oneandonly]

If we can fit it in in the first place, no, it can never be too tight.

HOWEVER. If it's a shallow vaginal canal and we make contact with the cervix it can be a bit painful.

But tightness? No. There's a reason guys love anal.. tighter = better sensation.

Painful as to both parties? hmm.. that's bit worrying actually.

[Gratedwasabi]

Painful as to both parties? hmm.. that's bit worrying actually.

Yes, to both. But that's pretty rare. I'm over 7 and I've only had it happen with a couple girls, so unless he's getting porno sized it's probably fine.

[oneandonly]

Do guys actually measure it? I find it amusing when people are referring to the exact size. A mental picture that goes through my head how they measure it. It seems a pretty serious business that one should know his exact size....lol.

[Gratedwasabi]

Do guys actually measure it? I find it amusing when people are referring to the exact size. A mental picture that goes through my head how they measure it. It seems a pretty serious business that one should know his exact size....lol.

Almost every single man has measured it. Probably several times. It sounds strange.. but.. it's kind of like a woman knowing her bra size. You just want to know how you compare. Even if women didn't wear bras, I'd be willing to bet they still had a way to size them for comparison.

[IndigoGal]

Lube is a girl's best friend. They are NOT all the same! Personally, I say stay away from the glycerin based ones because I have sensitive skin and it actually does more harm than good. Glycerin is the main ingredient in soap! It can be very irritating. There are some great water based, non-glycerin lubes out there. My favorite is called, "Please." There are also silicon based lubes that are condom-safe, but I find they get sticky too easily.

On that note, for me, there is such a thing as too big. It's more of a girth issue than a length issue. My ex was very large in both departments and while lube helped A LOT there were still times that I just couldn't take it for long. Still there are other ways to get your pleasure together besides intercourse, and the size of the man has nothing to do with the size of the member. My ex was barely 5'10" and skinny, but extremely well endowed (over 8 inches, we measured). The guy I'm seeing now is a big, broad shouldered guy and is about average in size.

[HeartIsAching]

Do guys actually measure it? I find it amusing when people are referring to the exact size. A mental picture that goes through my head how they measure it. It seems a pretty serious business that one should know his exact size....lol.

I never did, but a GF of mine did, many years ago. I'm uh... lets just say more than 7" long. I do have (ok, used to have) to be careful about too much cervical pressure with most women. Actually, it depended on the woman. Most don't like it, but some like it a lot... and some women I can't reach the cervix, or just barely do.

[Gratedwasabi]

I never did, but a GF of mine did, many years ago. I'm uh... lets just say more than 7" long. I do have (ok, used to have) to be careful about too much cervical pressure with most women. Actually, it depended on the woman. Most don't like it, but some like it a lot... and some women I can't reach the cervix, or just barely do.

Oh, right, a GF measured mine, too.

[smackie9]

There are different sized penises and different sized vaginas.....you just have to find the right fit.

[cathy22]

I think I've mentioned this in another post about my last boyfriend's larger size. We took it real slow in the beginning with him pushing only so much in, and like someone else mentioned here, try to relax. It took a few intimate encounters before I was able to accommodate all of him

[kinks]

My bf is like that with me, it made things slightly more difficult that I was a virgin too. Aah this is gonna be a quite cringey but hopefully it might work for you too... The first few times I could only manage with only some of it going in, only about my 4th or 5th time did letting him in all the way work... what we've found that helps quite a bit is after loads of foreplay, with fingers etc, if he goes in quite slowly and sort of stays for a minute-ish, just so I can get used to him. And remember, your vaginal walls are designed so that they can take something quite large (think giving birth and babies!) so really if you feel he's too big, it's just gonna take a while fo ryou to get used to him and sort of expand a little

aah cringe cring cringe... thank gawd for anonymity!

[jnr1005]

Yes...to big can be an issue... I dated a guy once that was above average in length...owww. He would keep hitting my cervix. Not fun.