Originally Posted by
bt1980
telling her then about him arriving at my door, she said he was a immature boy who thought there was something more than there was.
Oh my god, you poor guy. Don't you realize this guy^ wasn't coming to check you out, he was coming to do you a favour. He wanted you to know that your soon-to-be EX girlfriend has been 2-timing you for a whole year.
The fact she is calling *him* immature for showing up shows she has absolutely no remorse for what she has done. You mention wanting children. Is this the kind of woman you think would make a good mother?
1. She was cheating on you. Longterm. Who knows what diseases she has exposed you to.
2. She has been lying to you. Longterm. This wasn't a drunk one-night stand. How can you ever trust her?
3. She was caught out and, instead of being sorry and showing remorse (which I wouldn't believe anyway since she lied for so long), she tried to make it about the other guy!
This is beyond 'playing with your heart'. This selfish, amoral woman cares nothing for you. I'm sorry. You need to dump her immediately and move on. Go find the guy who gave you the heads up and buy him a beer. Get drunk together and make up new swear words about this bitch.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh