passion without love?

[MsAdele]

Its obvious that you have strong feelings for her because you keep trying to justify her actions like leaving you late for her BF. "But I do think she has to be more careful"???? What is that about? You are protecting her all the way. At the end of the day she is still leaving you each time. How do you know that she is not telling her other BF that its a casual thing also and maybe she is pretending that you are her actual BF to him? Ask yourself the question, if she did turn around to you tomorrow and asked you to have a serious relationship with her and told you that she would dump the "other guy(s)" in the picture - could you seriously seriously trust her and not think each time that she leaves you that she is sleeping with someone else because she is trying to satisfy something in her that she is lacking? She seems to have some serious issues and I do not think for a single second that she can be a 1 man woman. She has already told you she has had one night stands, she will go on like this simply because she can and she is getting away with it so far and you and her BF are letting her get away with it. I'm sure her BF has doubts also if she is spending so much time with you and the random 1 night stands. Seriously man - RUN!

[dem862]

It sounds like she wants to get caught. Her type of lifestyle must be incredibly stressful. It sounds like some of the stories in the sex addicts anonymous book. I halfway envied her ability to command any kind of sex she wants at the moment, but then maybe that just cheapens it and makes it really not that special for her. Anyway, it does sound like she has a limited ability to connect on an emotional level. Whereas you seem to want that deeper connection with someone, and she is willing to let you use her for that purpose. You seem to realize this relationship is missing something. Your willingness to do something about it is directly proportional to your desire to obtain what is missing. In all likelihood, what she is doing is untenable. I really think some women go through a phase where they gauge their self-worth by the reaction of their male suitors. I think what she is doing is incredibly immature, selfish, and shallow. You seem to be engaged with the hope that she will eventually come around to feel the same way about you as you do about her. However, I dont think she is capable of it, and any semblance of it is merely an act on her part, perhaps mimicking what you do in order to keep you on the line and to try to understand it. Now that I think about it, she does have some very prominent histrionic traits. I see more drama in your future. Good luck and best wishes.

[smackie9]

You guys are wasting your time. His head is stuck in the sand........

[uncle.gaston]

Yup, it's so stuck in the sand that I really appreciate the replies of steviej, MsAdele and dem862 and am deeply thinking about what they wrote. It's also because it's stuck in the sand that I opened this thread and repeated my question (post #12). Come on, if I did not question the situation, I wouldn't have bothered to open a thread.

[smackie9]

De-nial is not just a river in Egypt.

[smackie9]

Start buying her jewelry, like a nice sparkly necklace so everytime she looks in the mirror she will see it and be reminded of you. Also her BF will see it and realize someone else may have her heart....that will start the ball rolling, hopefully he will dump her and she will come crying into your arms where she can feel safe and accepted.

[surfhb]

I'm basically saying what every other posters is saying....I'm calling you names because you obviously don't get the situation here. I thought it would be a good way to snap you out of the denial you seem to be stuck in. I don't think it's working

[lylufy]

Why does a girl that is very pretty (and everyone I know says she's hot) and that could get anyone in her bed, starts showing affection to a ****friend? It seems to me that a ****friend in love has to be avoided at all cost, because that kind of guy is out of control and could inform her BF (love and hate are not far away from each other).


why she want you, not another guys??? Why? Because only you did tell her that passion feeling !
She knew exactly what she can do with you (go to bed) without harm.
Why, up to now you has not told her BF about her cheating ???
She knew that you don't do it ! Because you loved her much.
If I were her, I also chosen you to have sex but not in a truly relationship.
Some women are really greedy !
And a main point you should find is that who is her BF? Who is he? Why she told that she only love her BF much???
Be careful. I think she is not a kindness girl. That's certainly some secret !

[smackie9]

Better be carful.....you may find the BF and 6 of his friends at your door to pummel you stupid.

[smackie9]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTx6enCvQ-M

Hey Annie
Girl look at you
Is that a new boy stuck on your shoe

Come on Annie
how is it so
Youve always got a new bubble to blow

Im gonna tell ya how its gonna get done
Im just a girl thats only chewing for fun
You spit it out when all the flavour has gone
Wrap it round your finger like your playing with gum

Chorus*

oh no
oh no
youve got it all wrong
I think you think your chocolate when your chewing gum
oh no
oh no
A slip of the tongue
i think you think your chocolate when your chewing gum
oh no

Come hey Annie
you used to be
The only girl to take it seriously
Come on Annie
Tell us your trick
On how you keep on getting boys to stick
Okay ill tell you why you,ll never love gum
Its my selection its my pick of the pack
Im hooked on I'm the chewing machine
It makes me smile and keeps my teeth clean