My 'boyfriend' wants to be friends before lovers??!! It's driving me crazy!!!

[shheadz]

Maybe I should just say "ok, maybe you can dump me now, lets just have sex and get it over with LOL." or "Either I dump you cos you won't have sex, or you dump me cos we will have sex... or what if we have half-sex and neither of us climaxes, will you still dump me? Or maybe I should get you to the point of no return, and then dump you, just before you climax, or maybe just tantric sex, does that count as a shag even if we are just doing a cosmic meditation whilst naked and horny"

.... WHY SO GODDAMN COMPLICATED!!!! :o(

I actually think that's a good idea. The "Either I dump you cos you won't have sex, or you dump me cos we will have sex" part. I mean, that's what it's going to come down to anyway.

[lhn]

just make sure all STD's are off the cards first ^_^

[tropigal82]

>lhn< I think he does use it though, I don't think he'd have packed it in his washbag if he wasn't using it. Also I've noticed him 'scratching' down there a few times when he must have assumed I was asleep. Might also explain why he tries to keep his undies on all the time!!! Blokes are not usually THAT shy!!! Poor baby :o(

[tropigal82]

God I'm horny.

[shheadz]

Well! This whole thing has taken a very strange turn!

[lhn]

Well, if you decide to speak to him about it, he might straight out deny it. Only cos that means he lied to you before and doesn't want you to know that either

If you become more and mroe convinced it is a STD of some sort, perhaps say something like "I don't want you to answer. I don't want you to clarify. But I do want you to know, if you have something wrong in the downstairs department then you don't have to be embarrassed. I'll be patient"
If he has the horror-stricken face of a cat in a microwave then you know you haven't hit the nail on the head hehe.
If he looks embarrassed or relieved then its all good.
If he flips out then you can always tell him "its ok, I have one too" hahaha

just playing x

[tropigal82]

"I don't want you to answer. I don't want you to clarify. But I do want you to know, if you have something wrong in the downstairs department then you don't have to be embarrassed. I'll be patient"
If he has the horror-stricken face of a cat in a microwave then you know you haven't hit the nail on the head hehe.

LMAO ..... hehehehe, good idea!!!

Maybe that should be my standard chat up line for all men? Haha

I will let you know how it "goes down".

[lhn]

To be honest... I hope it 'go up' xD

[tropigal82]

I do hope so! ;-)

[tropigal82]

UPDATE!!!

OK so last night we met up for dinner and theatre. (Was it a date, I dunno... I guess so). I was pretty nervous beforehand cos I was thinking whether he was gonna be a bit distant again, and whether I would have to bring up the issue of "whats going on here" etc etc. I was braced for the worst LOL, as they say... expect the worst and then anything else is a bonus haha. I made an extra effort with my appearance for last night and luckily I was feeling quite confident in my self.

Well....the good news is that the evening went well and I felt very relaxed and happy with him. He was really impressed with my choice of restaurant (the food was excellent), and also he thoroughly enjoyed the show at the theatre. (Yay...) Also there was much more eye contact and smiles than 2 weeks ago (when we'd had 'the chat' and when he said that we should take two steps back). Bad news was that there still wasn't any physical touch :-( Booooo.

HOWEVER, we did end up having an indepth conversation all about our sexual fantasies and fetishes. *Raise Eyebrow* He also said that he wants to pose naked for me so I can draw him / paint him (I'm an artist by the way) except he said "but not for another two months, until my gym sessions have paid off and I'm in good shape" (well personally I think his body is perfect already so I dunno what he's on about).

When we said goodbye he gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek, not on lips :-(
He asked me if I want to come out to a party next Friday, with him and some of his mates. He texted me later that evening to say "I had a really great time tonight." Then he texted me again this morning (I had a job interview) to say "Good luck for the interview, give it everything you got, hope it goes well."

So basically, last night went well and I got a good vibe, but I am still confused...! My gut instinct is that he genuinely does have feelings for me and genuinely does want to take things slow. But I don't understand why he's holding back with something as simple as a kiss on the lips.

Guys what do you think? After everything we said, sharing sexual fantasies and him saying he wants to pose naked for me, does this mean he is still interested in me on a sexual level, or at least potentially? Or is this something a guy would say if he was 'just platonic' with a girl (i.e. not interested in her sexually or romantically).

Would he say these things if he wasn't interested in me?

[qwertz]

now im more confused..i'll wait for the guys to answer this one!

[Wiredbomb0]

He's definitely interested in you

He just may be by shy or worried that you might not feel the same way in return.

It's slightly confusing how he was talking sexual fantasies (that's usually a touchy subject) and yet, he hasn't kissed you? He's interested in, otherwise why would have he have sent those messages? He likes you

Just take things slow and see how they turn out

[tropigal82]

>Wiredbomb0< well we have already kissed (alot!!!) and things got very intense between us in Sept / Oct / Nov of last year (we fooled around in bed several times but never had sex yet), and then at Xmas he said that we should take 2 steps back and get to know each others as friends before any relationship happens. So now I feel a bit... in limbo, we are both still interested in each other and care about each other, and seem to having these sexually charged discussions, but he's still keeping me at arms length... hmm... I swear... this boy is confusing me!!!

I am looking forward to drawing him naked though, maybe I should book a hotel room and order some champagne to help him 'loosen up' ;-)

Maybe I should stand there naked while I draw him? And see how long he can sit there, naked, staring at my naked body, while I tell him 'to stay still'.....

[qwertz]

yep...dont forget the viagra so he gets so frustrated he has to **** you.

[lhn]

LOL Q...

Glad the meal went well and the theatre. Good to hear things are a bit more 'back on track' compared to the majorly-distant guy he turned into over the last couple of weeks. Personally, still have no idea how he resists you. uh, he clearly is an amazingly good looking fella lol.

I think you might have a geniune one on your hands. BUT, I can't help come back to the earlier post with the suggestion of something "untoward" LOL with his beast... hmmmmm.

He is definitely digging you, thats for sure. But holding back on sex?! thats a strange one. Surpriesed you haven't exploded yet!