when did being single become a crime???

[BoredGeorge]

Some people think that because I enjoy being in relationships that I am codependent and maybe that I need a man to make me feel worthwhile.

What you are doing is perfectly normal, at your age you should enjoy being in as many different relationships as possible.

A woman definitely does need a man to feel worthwhile and there is nothing wrong with that, I think it is the normal human state.

The tabloid media, like to keep women single by promoting the idea you should only ever have one or two 'special' relationships with a perfect man. This is not the case, as such perfection does not exist, we must use trial and error by being with many people to truly find someone that 'fits'.

[BoredGeorge]

I take that shot with pleasure.

EDIT: sometimes I let my bitter, cynical side take over. nevermind.

Thats nice, because while you stay in your dark room I doubt any woman will be taking your 'shot' any time soon.

[Mish]

So I guess at the end of the day the question is: "when did being single become an undesirable temporary state of being?"

To answer your question as correctly as possible, I think somewhere about 5,000 - 6,000 years ago. Though, it could've been a lot longer before then. It's only now that being single is becoming a bit more tolerated. You're living in the golden age of single people my friend.

[Cbrider]

It has everything to do with the general picture society paints. Its funny that you mention this, because there is far more understanding and tolerance in today's world for singles than their has been in the past.

The 60's and 70's were all about chasing the dream of the white picket fence life, raising a family and generally being a model citizen. Now we have bigger issues thrown into the mix that are challenging the traditional laws of society. Gay marriage, the adult entertainment industry and a generally diminished value on sex as a sacred act for starters.

We're going through a major reform right now where we are intentionally challenging the status quo in many ways. My generation specifically, is not afraid to ask why and to try and change things. I think all in all its a good thing, its drawing a concrete base for tolerance of those that don't fall into a specific category, whether that be singles, gays, lesbians or any other person.

[bloodtippedrose]

Screw nature... being human is about getting rid of animal instincts and listening to the voice of reason. I've fallen in love once, and it has only slowed me down in the really important matters of life, work and family. I wish it had never happened.

One day reproduction will be ensured by artificial means and there will be no more of this nonsense. We'll leave f***** hormones behind us and become truly rational beings.

Basically you strive for the world THX-1138 suffered in? I wouldn't say that's advancing. We have animal instincts for a reason, because we're mammals! I agree that alot of people abuse their emotions (i.e. fat chicks, people that kill other people, christians..) But I wouldn't say that we're "weak" because of them, they aid us in triggering life-saving responses and you can learn to control them.

And wishing you never fell in love? thats funny ;P Obviously you were the one who got dumped/cheated on/played. A truly rational being would have taken it as a learning experience and grew from it, now knowing more what they want in a compatible partner, or even appreciating single life more instead of saying "it was stupid I give up and never want it again!" lol.


btw im not trying to be a bitch Im just having fun with what you said

[irrelevant_89]

^ You see, that's my point. I'm not thinking rationally right now, that's why I'm lashing out at everything. And I hate it. This is not the usual me.

And BoredGeorge, believe me when I tell you I wouldn't have any more luck if I went out clubbing every night.

[lahnnabell]

A truly rational being would have taken it as a learning experience and grew from it, now knowing more what they want in a compatible partner, or even appreciating single life more instead of saying "it was stupid I give up and never want it again!" lol.

Totally agree with this.

[Sanctuary]

There's nothing wrong with being single: you have the freedom to do whatever you want and there's more than enough joy and excitement in life to make anyone happy.

But it's so much more fun when you have someone really close to share it with.

[DoesntMatter]

A young woman should never be single. If she is single it indicates that she has failed to attract a man and is therefore not a successful woman. This means she is of low status and quality. A young woman is incomplete without a man and if she does not have an official 'boyfriend' then she should be seeing lots of different men. Political corectness has modified this issue, so that it is said that it is normal for a young woman to be single, but this is not really the case.

Honestly, if you are a hot 24 year old female and have no boyfriend for 6 months, there is something wrong with you if not physically, then emotionally. At that age you should be attracting as many men as possible to find the best mate to get you pregnant and look after you while you have babies later in life. The reason is that you are only in your prime for a few years and men always will want to pluck the fertile, ripe cherries. The longer you leave it, the lower your potential becomes.

I am going to miss George. He was an asset to LF. Every forum needs a troll

[Sanctuary]

I am going to miss George. He was an asset to LF. Every forum needs a troll

Wait what happened to George?

wtf is going on? I demand justice

[lostinconfusion]

Very interesting responses you guys, thanks for joining in pondering this point. After reading all the responses I felt the urge to respond to some.

I find it interesting that so many people made the point about continuing the human race, but statistically I don't think expanding our population is really a problem. Look at the entire issue of sustainability plaguing our planet. We all agree that we are using up too many natural resources too fast, and that at this rate the planet cannot sustain the human race. So we know that there aren't enough resources, YET we are trying to figure out how to make sure we can continue our way of life which is actually causing our population to grow, accelerating the problem. Maybe some population control isn't such a bad idea...

Then many people brought up the fact that we are all naturally drawn to each other, especially sexually, I definitely agree with that. YET someone brought up another very true fact that in the age of technology we are actually quite closed of from human contact. SO while our society is dictating to us that we must attach to a person for life, humans are actually loosing their ability to socially interact... Hm maybe it's just me but i think we are going about this the wrong way. I think people have been taught to focus too much on "dating" and not enough on really socially, and in some cases, properly sexually interacting with each other.

And this brings me to my final point. Someone pointed out to me that we live in the "golden age of dating". While I do of course agree that things even 50 years ago weren't so awesome for single people, I have to argue that we are far from "the golden age". The reason i say this is actually why i began this whole thread in the first place:

My sister is what i would call a serial girlfriend. She is 25 and has not been single for longer then a week, since she started dating at 14. She recently got out of a horrible long term relationship where she almost married the guy simply out of fear of being alone. AND to top it of, she only left the guy because someone else came along who was promising. Now this new guy was twice her age, divorced with 3 kids. My sister was ready to jump in and marry him after 1 week. Now she is VERY pretty, educated and makes very good $$$$$. But she was ready to marry the next guy who came along simply because he was nice to her. After things didn't work with him, she moved on to her next marriage obsession with the another guy....and so it goes on. She goes from one long, or semi long, term relationship to the next, becoming instantly obsessed with each guy, conforming herself to the mold of being a perfect girlfriend for them, DYING to get married.....

On the other hand I casually date on and off. Had had a few boyfriends, but I know what I want and i'm fine being single while i'm looking for it...Well guess who my whole family feels is the weird one, the one needs fixing?...in case you are wondering, that would be me. Oh to the person who's family thought they were gay because you think being single is fine, yup i've been there too........

[irrelevant_89]

^ I'd say such extreme fear of being alone might mean one of two things:

1. Between parents and boyfriends, she has never really been alone in her life, having started dating so young. So she might be afraid of not being able to live life by herself.

2. She might have some hidden issue that makes her uncomfortable with herself (the old "alone with your own thoughts" thing), and avoids to be alone so she doesn't have to confront those thoughts.

(points at sig though)

[Mish]

More damaging than fear of being alone is the fear of the biological clock. The biological clock is always ticking and she's not getting any younger. If she wants a family she will be feeling each second of the clock like a death sentence against her future family hence I suspect her anticipation and impatience which I bet ironically only drives people away from her.

This IS however the golden age of single people. Never in human history have the single people been tolerated and un-opressed as much as they are tolerated now. So if you ever wanted to be single now is the best time.