My log distance love

[DalM0m]

Amazing Grace

After all this time in an LDR if you can't call him, you have to be very suspicious of this man. That excuse alone screams MARRIED to me.

I cant call him, because he gets prank calls or people with unlisted numbers and even though when I do call, I talk or leave a message and I asked him to plug back the phone and he said "no"...

This is a huge red flag & a BS excuse.

I have a trust that was a gift to me when I turned 21. I can afford to live anywhere he wants. He wont even have to work if he doesnt want to. ...

Please, please, please tell me that he doesn't know this. OMG! Although since he's pulling away, rather than running toward you & your money, he might not be a financially driven scam artist. In the unlikely event that you do ever meet this guy after you have access to your trust, get a pre-nup or you will be back here in a few years crying that you're broke & headed for divorce court.

The more of your detailed posts I read, the more I think my initial thought was right: you were a lovely fantasy to him but now that it stands a chance of being a reality, the more he's pulling away because he likes the way the relationship is . . .on line only.

[Amazing Grace]

Girl, I'm sorry, but this guy sounds like an idiot. Unplugging his phone? Huge red flag. Does he know about your trust fund, and that he will never have to work?

Also, saying you are smothering him means that he's probably giving you the cold shoulder a lot and that's making you desperate. He sounds really selfish.

And fwiw, I'm normally a softie on these things. But this really doesnt sound like a good situation.

He didn't want to talk to me this morning over a spat earlier in the evening... I called him when I saw he replied to my PM on a forum we share to say "Hi" and I wanted to talk a bit as its Christmas Eve..I told him that and he said its just another day to him (Christmas) I tried to send his mom a gift in the mail, but my friend made a mistake to mail it without enough postage and I sent him a card too with the gift I had for him too..but they never got there and I lost a dear friend and he was buried today, and I was just sad and overwhelmed of everything and he wasnt happy to hear from me..and we are to talk tonight in a few hours, and I feel like I shouldnt...he will only be mad at me. And yes, he knows of my trust..something I dont care for,,and I just dont know what to do anymore..but thanks everyone who takes time to read my thoughts...and Merry Chrsitmas.

[DalM0m]

I'm so sorry about the loss of your friend. If your guy can't get it together enough to provide you with emotional support after the death of your friend, I see even less of a reason for you to continue this farce of a relationship.