Who would you choose?

**katya** · 22-10-08, 11:59 AM

Originally Posted by miSSleepy

Huh? How did you make that connection?
I'm quiet and shy and only say things that I think are worth saying. If you stickl around longer, it might also become clear that I'm very questioning and critical.
Please stop trying to pull out some notion that I'm somehow girl #1 OR 2.

I apologize. I did not mean to cause any discomfort. I believe you and that is that. I guess that the same could have been done for me when I said that I was trying to be fair when it comes to these two women. I felt as if you were still pressing the issue of me being biasad towards the second one, even when I said that I was trying to be fair. But you ahve a right ot believe in whatever you want, just as I do.

To be honest with you, I was tyring to be fair, even though, I admit, I do like the culutred people more (or does it have to do with emotional intelligence of knowing how to control your emotions, how to respect and acknowledge others' emotions, having a good conversation, etc. instead of the opposite I guess), which does not mean that I hold any prejudice against others who are not as cultured. If I did, I would not have been friends with these two women. I am open to accept and respect everybody around me. I am also open in dating a guy who is not cultured, but I do admit that if I had to choose between a cultured + good and not so cultured +good, I would choose a cultured one. I was not being biasad towards the second one and I tried to be fair, becaue of which I decided to place as no. 2 and write the same amount of "negativities" for both. I felt as if some of you guys did not accept that, even when I said I did. In any way, some of the people chose the first one regardless of what I wrote aboutu the second one. Here is what wrote at the beginning:

Number 1 - she is cute, outgoing, strong, hard-working, practical, holds a doctorate, is a researcher, volunteers, is not elegant, does not have a sense of style, noisy at times, is not afraid of saying what she wants, traditional, smart, very successful

Number 2 -she is sensitive, emotional, compassionate, a great heart, quiet, calm, poised, insecure, modest, gorgeous, beautiful, attractive, elegant, great posture, graceful walk, polite, kind, holds a master's degree, artistic, talented in languages, dance, painting/drawing, music, sometimes stubborn, easygoing, serious, sometimes takes things too personally, great sense of style

Both of them have 4 negative traits. Thank you for your comments.

**all alone** · 23-10-08, 03:35 AM

It's hard to say without actually knowing people. My impression however is leaning towards number two, however it depends how sensitive/insecure/stubborn we are talking about. Those three there are potential relationship killers imo.