How is any of thhis helping OP? Go start another thread if you want to debate this shite. Im sure OP doesnt give a shit if his gf fantasizes about taylor lautners abs occasionally. She can think what she bloody wants inside her own head AND he believes that she did nothing more than kiss this dude so we should be focusing on that.
OP i am a total b**ch when it comes to cheating. I am so dead set against it and truly believe it is unforgivable. I mean you dont slip on a banana skin and end up with your tongue down someones throat by accident.. It shouldnt have happened-it was wrong but it doesnt matter what i or anyone else thinks. This is your life and your relationship. If you think you can forgive her and move past this-then go ahead. Just make sure you get all your QS answered before making a decision and you and she do need to talk openly and honestly about this
just ask yourself is an 18month relationship worth it? If you were together 20 years and had 3kids-then i could understand your desire to forgive but this is still a relatively new relationship and id say your girl doesnt understand the difference between infatuation and love (which is a big red flag so perhaps you should discuss that too if your gonna stay together)
"Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".