Here's the situation:
Girlfriend makes plans months in advance to attend 2 birthdays. One in town and one out of town. I agree to go with her to the one in town and she was supposed to drive the next day to the one out of town with a friend and come back the next morning for work.
The first birthday, she was very certain that she wanted to stay until the end, because she wasn't able to attend the year before because of a conflict with my birthday (which we fought about). Day of the first birthday, plans change because there's a potential thunderstorm and the friend bails last minute. She asks me to go all of a sudden, and is very indecisive about the whole plan as to when to leave etc.. when months prior she never asked me to go, even though the bday girl said it was fine for me to go as it was supposed to be no bf's. I tell her I have to be back at a certain time the following day, she gets quiet. Friend makes up her mind, and then the plan changes to leave that night, meaning the 1st bday she couldn't/didn't want to stay until the end. I turned friends down, who wanted to go out because I told them I already agreed previously to attend the 1st birthday party all night. Now the day of the 1st birthday party, when it's time for her to head out of town, hours earlier than what we initially planned, I'm basically left sitting at home by myself...
Day of 2nd party. I get a call at 11am. We talk very briefly. In the middle of the conversation she passes the phone to my friend so I could talk to him etc. (a few of my friends were there so my gf and her friend stayed in their room). Phone is given back to her and we talk for a few seconds before she says she has to go. Cool. 9 hours later I get a text, I respond a few hours later because I was busy with family. No response...I text her right before i go to bed, which is aroudn 1230.. I fall asleep around 1-130. 3am comes by and I get a text from her apologizing for not responding because she was driving and then a call from her since she just got back home. I wake up from the text and call. The conversation lasts seconds, since I can't hear/understand a single word she is saying. we hang up and I get a text from her saying she's super tired and she can't talk louder because people are sleeping. misses and loves me... Great right? The call woke me up and I was unable to sleep the rest of the night and have a long commute to work the next morning. I get 1.5-2 hours of sleep and have AM meetings. FUN!. I text her in the morning telling her I wasn't able to sleep after she called and I�m tired too. Also wishing that she had called me earlier in the night before driving back. Knowing that I have to wake up early the following morning.
She apologizes and responds saying she really didn't mean to do that, she just wanted to talk to me and she didn't think of it before. Also noting that she took a little nap prior to the drive, woke up and drove trying to get home asap. I check my phone in the morning and realize that she made comments on her friend's facebook 30 minutes after I texted her when I was with my family. That was roughly 4.5-5 hours before she calls me and gets home. The drive back home for her is approximately 3-4 hours. See the urgency and rush to get home? Math doesn't work out.
From my POV, it seems like she gave me a lame excuse when she had the entire day to call me! This happens a lot when she's out with friendsand I get the least amount of response or communication because she's "busy". I don't want a long conversation lasting hours, but at least the common decency and consideration if you're going to talk to me.
Am I over-reacting since I'm tired and grumpy? or should i call her out on it? How should I approach this?