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BFTrick
If i do want to romance her then how should i go about it? after checking out her facebook page it is obvious she attracts a lot of males attention. From the little i have read between the lines I think and hope she likes me back.
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First of all, realize this.. (she gets plenty of male attention, all the time, but she's still single).. think about this for a second.. ask yourself why..
I'll tell you why.. Because she's not attracted to men who will try to "romance her".. She hears guys tell her "hey sexy, hey beautiful, I love you" all the time.. So, she's on this ego-trip high-horse right now.. and she's setting up a "hoop" for you to jump over.. which you're about to! Don't!
What to do?
1. Knock her off of her high-horse ego-trip.. Send out subtle negative comments to make her self-concious about herself.. (Examples: Is there something in your teeth? Never mind, it's gone I think.. Eww, your hands are sweaty, gross!).. while displaying high value (showing her indirectly that you are a high quality male) "ways to do this are being funny, active, not nervous, in control of the social crowd, commanding attention, showing that you're passionate, driven, ambitious, and have respectable and attainable goals for the future"
2. Now that she's off her high-horse and feels like she's "less than beautiful".. her female psyche' is going to want to regain that female sexual control over you.. don't let her ego recover! She's going to be throwing "hoops" at you.. I want you to dodge them (Example: I got these new shoes, so you didn't tell me if you like my dress, I did my hair yesterday, I spent an hour getting ready with make-up and all, etc).. notice how she's trying to boost her ego.. don't give in.. brush it off, switch the subject, or simply respond (yeah.. it looks "fine" I guess)..
3. Now she'll be in shock.. "a guy who's not interested in me? AND he's not falling for my hoops? what? I have no idea what to do now! what's with this guy? does he have a gf? is he gay? or something else?".. you've just made her curious.. and women are like cats.. make a cat curious.. and you can have her doing acrobatics for hours.. curiousity turns into interest, and interest turns into attraction, (but before there is attraction.. it's pointless and a MISTAKE to "romance" her).. you have to continue this game.. and command the attention of other women and people in the group or around you.. make her feel thirsty for your attention and validation.. but stay firm and ignore.. SLOWLY give her hints of attention and validation.. but nothing that signals interest..
4. Look out for her indicators of interest, (she keeps the conversation going, she finds excuses to be next to you, to touch you, looks at you, when she asks hard questions she looks at you to see how you'll react, etc).. DON'T RESPOND TO THESE! or else she will think, "aha! I knew i'd win him over, he was too easy.. yet an other dumb guy under my belt just like all the rest"..
5. If you're here, it's time! You're in good shape, you're ready to move past the attraction you've built up, and show her legitimate reasons why you're attracted to her.. Start by provoking HER to strike up aspects of her personality.. it helps to talk about vague topics like horoscopes, her plans for the future, values, etc.. She's going to reveal some aspect of her personality.. and then you can take the time to say how much you like that about her, or how rare it is to find that in someone, and how it's so important to you, that's what you look for in people.. the point is (make her feel that you have some legitimate reason to be interested in her; or else, she may feel that you've been manipulating her in order to get sex)..
6. Good News! At this point in the game.. Attraction is built, you've expressed your legitimate reason for being attracted to her.. now it's time to move onto building "comfort".. the best way to do this is through more conversation.. but the conversation will now obviously have the cross through her boundries, knocking over all of them.. this is where mutual flirting takes place.. the rest is all up to you.. i've taken you this far, but i'm not about to write your life-story for you..
Last edited by GrkScorp; 01-01-08 at 10:41 AM.
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