I'm female, turning 22 in a few months. I have never been in a relationship before. I cannot find a guy my age who I actually connect with. I have been through a lot in my life and I'm a pretty complex person. Yet every single male my age that I've ever known, only cares about getting drunk/high and having sex. They do not understand someone like me. They go clubbing, get trashed, and stumble into their cars with their obnoxious God awful music blasting all the way home.
My 23 year old male co-workers do nothing but talk about sex all day. They see girls passing by and "rate" their bodies constantly. There is nothing wrong with thinking about sex because we all do...but young guys are incredibly shallow to a degree I never knew. I recently heard my own 15 year old brother talking on the phone about which girls in school are "passable" to do things with, and which ones are only good for doing certain "favors" (can't get too graphic here.) To top it all off, today I was waiting on a table full of young men who were picking women apart piece by piece. Who's boobs aren't big enough, who's too fat, who's too thin, who's too "slutty" (funny coming from them). I couldn't believe they actually think this way and are so critical of girls looks. Sure I see a man pass by and think he is attractive/unattractive, but I don't harp on his every flaw.
I wanted to know if guys in their 30's or guys who are older than me in general, are any different than guys my age. Is there a significant difference in their priorities, thoughts and maturity level? I have no problem with sex being a big part of ones relationship, I am not uptight about that. I just can't take the young male mentality of going to clubs, getting wasted and sleeping with different girls all the time.
I only want the truth here. I honestly don't know what older men are like because I'm not around them. Part of me thinks that I'd be too intimidated to be with someone in their 30's because I'd feel like a kid around him. I'd also feel intimidated having a nowhere job as a waitress while he probably has a real career with good income. I don't want to settle down and have kids or anything like that. I just want to meet someone who has thoughts, maturity, depth, actual interests aside from playing beer pong, etc.