Let's just assume you are attracted to the mystery, excitement, or the new feeling of him being assertive. Having butterflies in your stomach does not mean you two have to get married. Sometimes it's just gas. lol.
You might like men to be dominant, which is not the same as abusing you. You need a man you can trust to be assertive, without abusing you. Being a dominant man in the bedroom has nothing to do with abuse or belittling people. It's similar to a type of role-playing. It is simply the man taking charge in the romance department. This is all fine, as long as you recognize what is going on.
I hope I can explain what this means to you so you don't get trapped in an ugly, abusive relationship. Some men think being dominant means their woman likes to be abused. They are not the same concepts. My gf likes me to be dominant in the bedroom, but it is done in a context of a close, loving relationship with boundaries and respect. And we both have fun with it.
Last edited by bulrush; 29-08-11 at 10:42 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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