Hello,
I apologize if this turns out somewhat long. I was really hoping I could get some advice on my current relationship. It would be much appreciated. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 4 years now. I care about her a lot and I love her, but the thing is - we have a lot of issues that it just seems like we cant resolve. She's still in college, and she is stressed out ...a lot. However, it seems like she takes it all out on me.
For example, the other day for Valentine's Day, I came over her house, made her dessert, brought her flowers, and was going to take her out to dinner. First she needed help with her homework, so she hands me the assignment. The packet was about 6 pages long. I apparently made the mistake of asking her "how much do I have to read?" (I wanted to know how much of the packet includes her assignment). That ticked her off apparently. She got very stressed out and started giving me very rude answers and raising her voice. So i told her to just relax and stop cursing at me. After that she stopped talking to me for the rest of the day. Even during dinner she wouldn't speak to me. All of this after I did all these things for her, and after taking her out. (She has had these communication problems in the past and I've tried addressing it) The next day I call her and tell her how I upset I am with her and how after all the nice things I did, she just doesn't speak to me all day. I told her how I don't deserve it. She tells me that I made it seem like I didn't want to help her with the assignment because I asked about the length of the reading. Then she told me how horrible it is that I "threw the things I did for her into her face like that and how she thanked me several times for it all." I didn't mean to throw anything into her face - I just wanted her to know how upset I am.
Honestly, this is just one example of these "fights" we get into, and I just cant take it anymore. I am losing all energy to fight like this, and I feel like this is not the way I want to live my life. I just really need an opinion..I feel like I'm going crazy...