I am a 24 year old male and have been in a relationship with a 21 year old female for 2 years. When we first met and started dating we couldn't get enough of each other. She was constantly laughing when she was around me, we truly enjoyed each other. Sex 2 or 3 times a week and it was great. It was like this until one year into the relationship she calls me in tears and says she doesn't think she is happy anymore. When she tells me this (over the phone) I flip out. Get really mad and ask what I did? Why wasn't she happy? Anyways after my flip out we talked and she assured me everything would be okay and that we would just work on changing things.
For the next 2 months I felt like complete shit. She said everything was okay but the sex and anything related stopped. Completely. This made me very insecure. She just said she was tired and wasn't in the mood. It has been a year and it is still VERY sparingly. Maybe once every 4 weeks maybe 5. She says she is happy and she loves me. But I've noticed she is always very annoyed at me, never really in a great mood, and hard to be around.
I mentioned to her that our lack of physical attraction bothered me (of course I didn't put it like that) but she got really upset saying that I made her feel awful about that and saying "Well I'm sorry I'm the worst girlfriend in the world". Of course I reassure her that she isn't and nothing changes. Now she just started nursing school and is very busy. I only get to see her about twice a week. Tonight we had dinner with her family then back to my apartment for a movie. So we start the movie and I start rubbing her back like I normally do and she starts talking about how tired she is. The minute the movie ended she says "Okay can you take me home now?" I asked her if she still likes being around me and she says yes. But damn, I am so frustrated. It seems that I have tried everything. While sex isn't the only thing in a relationship... physical attraction is a big part of it. Is she still holding something against me for flipping out a year ago?
I just don't get it. I am very confused and frustrated. Please share your incite. I haven't shared this with anyone because I'm a guy and don't feel comfortable talking to my guy friends about it.