I don't want to go into all the details, because I've told the story many times. Long story short, I got so wrapped in love and being with my girlfriend that I became really clingy. Throw in some of my own insecurities and it wore my girlfriend down and she broke up with me.
It's been about a month and a half now since the breakup. After the initial emotionally crazy period the first couple weeks I have kept my distance and respected her decision. Needless to say, I almost immediately realized my mistakes. And the time apart has really gave me a TON of time to think and better myself. I'm not claiming to be perfect, but my views on relationships, being clingy, how much time you should spend together is completely different. I have also grown as a person and most of the confidence and insecurities issues have been dealt with by me. I am also in a better place emotionally. I'm passed the moping around, thinking I'll die without her stage - we've all been there I'm sure. Now I am at the point where my life is back on track and realize that I still love her and do want her back.
So my question is simply...What is the best way to approach her?
The situation is tricky because my past clingy ways. My fear is that by approaching her she will automatically put her guard up that I "just can't let go" or that I'm desperate and that I haven't changed at all. I want to approach her so that she gets the idea (and it's the truth) that I still love her deeply and really want her in my life. My intentions are to reconnect and hopefully get back to where we started so we can see if we can be together again.
Any real advice is appreciated. Just curious how you'd like to be approached given this situation to where you wouldn't immediately get defensive.