How would you want to be approached via facebook?

[bwyand]

So Im curious I feel Ive meet a ton of girls but just never really talked to them. So say there is this cute girl that I have met/see around and I have their facebook, what should I do message them? From there how can i strike something up?

[Gigabitch]

I would ignore you completely if I didn't know you IRL. Meeting people on Facebook is weird, in my opinion. Creepy.

[girl68]

True. But he says he "knows" these girls.

If you KNOW them fire off a hey we met at the concert last week, remember me? You'll get a bunch of no responses but you also might score one or 2.

[Gigabitch]

Then add the Kidnap! application and kidnap them. That's fun (and somewhat interesting to play, too).

[pisces7378]

I think that it 100% depends on the girl. If she has 600 friends on Facebook, then she is one of those Facebookers that is completely comfortable with the medium, and sees it for the social tool that it can be. But these people tend to be weird, and have blurred the line between the cyber, and real world.

If she has 100 or less Facebook friends, then she is probably what I call more of a "real lifer". She lives in the here and now of real people. She probably goes out a lot, uses her telephone more, and not just for text messages.

I am unfortunately very shy, and would love it if the world were such that I could just sit back and fire off text messages, and Facebook notes and women would just respond the way I'd like. But I can literally PROMISE YOU, that this is a fantasy and couldn't be farther from the truth.

If you want to get to know a girl, find out her phone number and call her. Get a mutual friend to arrange a time where you can "spontaneously" meet her together and strike up a conversation. Or just do something where you are actually in the same place at the same time. It's hard, and I know you want to argue, and say, "But but but... I think Facebook is..."

It's NOT. Facebook is a tool for keeping up with people that you have already known. It is good for keeping in touch with high school friends that you probably never really liked all that much. And if offers a lot of relief from idle down time at work or between college classes.

That's ALL.

[Sanctuary]

With the popularity of social networking, if you're still in college like I am, I see no problem with using facebook as a medium to re-initiate contact with anyone and using it as a platform to elevate the relationship to something more.

Just do what girl68 said. Keep it simple, say hi, nothing fancy. She'll respond back and you take it from there. Now go and talk to her in person when you see her.

[pisces7378]

With the popularity of social networking, if you're still in college like I am, I see no problem with using facebook as a medium to re-initiate contact with anyone and using it as a platform to elevate the relationship to something more.

Just do what girl68 said. Keep it simple, say hi, nothing fancy. She'll respond back and you take it from there. Now go and talk to her in person when you see her.

Sanctuary is right. College age and younger people are definitely Facebook savvy. Just do not fall into the trap that Facebook is a one-to-one replacement for asking a girl out. If you just say, "What's up! We're in the same Geometry class. Did that test suck as bad for you as it did for me?!?", then you are fine.

But if you go so far as to ask her out via Facebook... my opinion is that it is a mistake. If you ask her out in person, she has so much more to go by. And plus there is the "sweep her off her feet" factor to a live encounter. Facebook has none of that. She'll have all day, all weekend, all however long to think about it, get into a head game with herself, and then possibly just ignore you altogether. Ouch!

Or she might still say yes, but just not think of you as a very serious ideal. I don't know man. I know this is a forum for women to tell guys what to do, so I should probably shut up.

I am just saying, from personal experience, texts, Facebook, MySpace and any of that non-human communication just kicks up so much mud in the water, that although it seems harder to work up the courage, it is WAY simpler to just do everything in person. Or at least over the phone.

And don't let yourself off the hook by saying you don't have her number... I KNOW that you can get her number somehow. No she WON'T think you are a stalker if you ask a mutual friend for her number.