Say, if someone was put through hell while in a relationship; has broken up with that person, then decided to get back together and then, guess what, the person treats them poorly again. So, they decide to break it off, take a year or so off, then decide that they`re ready to date again and they find someone who treats them like gold. They date them for long while. They tell the person that they love them and when one little thing goes wrong, they dump this good person`s ass and decide that they `never stopped loving their (crazy – my words) ex` and they`re really sorry for hurting the good person, but they`re still in love with the ex`...
The ex claims that she is reformed (no longer an evil person) and, so, one has to jump back into their arms as soon as a little thing goes wrong in the new (good) relationship. Is this person seriously cruel and ****ed up for leading partner number 2 on, when she later claims that her feelings for her ex had never changed..
Messed up, huh..
Bitter..yup!
and more..
For me, I think that I’m more hurt by how it went down. Her sending me an email (cowardly, as far as I’m concerned), telling how she realized that she is still in love with her ex and that her feelings for her ex had never changed. So, my question is, if that were the case, then why say to me (for months and months) that she loves me more than I’ll ever know, that she wanted a life with me, maybe a family? She would say things to me like ‘I wonder if I’m the right person for you?’ (near the end of the relationship). And, since we don’t live close to one another, ‘I don’t know what you do in your daily life”. She claimed that she was worried about this one friend of mine (we’re all lesbians, btw) and she felt threatened by her. Was this all a crock of shit, what she was saying? Maybe, it was her guilty conscious because she herself was feeling something more for her ex. I know that she is insecure and her self-esteem is pretty bad. I know that she’s got a few skeletons in her closet. I now know that she was still very emotionally connected to this ex. —and dysfunctionally so. But, why drag someone else along? Were all the things that she told me lies (her feelings towards me) and everything that we shared, did it mean absolutely nothing to her?
People who know her say that she is one of the nicest people. My family who met her are stunned because they truly liked her and thought she was a genuine person. So, that’s where I’m a bit stumped.
Like I said, I’m more hurt/angry about the fact that I felt that I was being used (?). The not having in her in my life part, is a lot easier, then being played for a fool.